Almost exactly 3 months. However I took dilation to be an opportunity for pleasuring myself from as soon as major pain had passed, it made dilation easier, relaxing PC muscles etc. While things are still settling into place, my first penetrative sex with GF was nice and has continued to improve. While I definitely enjoy penetration, now it's not often the main event :-).
I finally feel most everything is settled in, I now know how to get myself sufficiently aroused that I want to and can rub my clit quite furiously :-).