I talked to my Dad a few days ago. We had a great conversation. He's 88y, a psychiatrist trained in psychoanalysis, and I mean he is a true Freudian. He is really trying hard to learn more about TGism so he going to psychoanalytic journals for an academic POV. Okay, that is a start.
I suggested he read more first person accounts from TG women and pointed hin to the book, To My Trans Sisters. He went out the next day to the book store and bought the book. I haven't talked to him since to listen to his thoughts.
And, I told him about choosing a name that matches my GI and told him I had chosen Zoey Catherine, Catherine to honour my Mom who passed away 10y ago. Now he is calling Zoey or Z-C.
I wrote to him:
Choosing a name that reflects my identified gender is one step in the process and I have chosen Zoey Catherine, partly to honour Mom. I know this is weird and hard for people whom have known me my entire life. Honestly, it is new for me as well, but i am getting used to it and introduce myself to new friends as Zoey.
It meant much to me to hear you use my chosen name ...
Know that I am happy notwithstanding the separation and divorce. I am happy that you love and support me. All of us are on a new journey, it may be a bit wild at times and we will hang on to each other as we move forward.
With much love, your daughter, Zoey.
Here is what he wrote back to me:
Hi Zoey Catherine : That today was a step forward for us was deeply felt by me as well ! This E-mail to me is special and I know that it will indeed stay that way , and I am downloading it to always reread it as a reminder .
Love is amazing. Thanks, Dad.
Hugs Zoey xoxoxo
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