NOT OUT at work, anywhere, and get asked so I resopond...how do you?

[Marcieelizabeth]

Yes. I also tended to be afraid of coming out at work place about 15 years ago. But in a few years, people around me became familiar with my new change, far more than I initially assumed. People are flexible regardless of their education, age or religion.

At the initial stage, some people may ask questions, or even argue with you. It can be a bumpy journey, but time will eventually solve all problems.

Assertive attitude is important. Be confident, and most people will follow you.

barbie~~

Barbiue - I agree, attitude is more than half the battle, if we act like it is just normal, then most people just go along!  And I caqnnot wait until all this can be resolved and I can just be me, Marcie!  Thanks

[Marcieelizabeth]

You're wearing makeup while out with people who already know you as a male? Nothing wrong with that but I would wonder about anyone I knew as male suddenly carrying a purse and wearing makeup (unless maybe they were gay and thats a big maybe). I guess I am further inquiring if wearing women's clothes and makeup is seen as out of character for you or not by the people asking about you. If it is seen as out of character for you, and you feel safe and comfortable doing so, you can tell them about your journey. Otherwise, well, I would be hard pressed to find an explanation and would probably go into guy mode until I was ready to come out to more people. To be clear, no value judgements are being made here on anything you are or are not doing!

Be well Marcie!

Thanks! Strangely enough I think being not out and doing these things, carrying a purse, wearing make up, and taking a chance is the only way I can be sane!  If I go into male mode, I will lose it!  My experience is I can get away with a lot more than I already am without having to tell all, most people just don't think like this is an option, so if I give them another solution, they just go along with it.  Anyway, than k you for the well wishes, I hope the best for you too!  Love and Hugs, Marcie

[Marcieelizabeth]

I'm not fully out at work either.  My coworkers just tell me they like my new look.  I wear makeup, eye shadow, eye liner, rouge, and tinted moisturizer everyday.  I sometimes have lipstick on too.  Nobody at work has said anything.  On the other hand a rider in the vanpool has ragged on me about it one day when I wasn't riding to the other people on the van.  Another rider told me.  Personally I could care less.  I like wearing makeup.  When the other person told me, I just said I like it.  He didn't care either way.

Basically my whole plan and so far it's worked is I just own up to it.  When people notice my nails, I say arent they great?  When they comment on my jacket I tell them where I got it, and yes it's a women's only store.  I find that if they see me as enjoying my new style they kind of go along with it, and enjoy it with me.

Bari Jo

Bari Jo - I love it!  And that is what I am doing too!  it works, and I do not know why but I am not going to question a good thing!  Love and Hugs, Marcie