Coming Out To Parents

[SkyIndica]

This seems like the most difficult thing I have to do in terms of transitioning. For my whole life so far, my mother has seen me as her second son. She mentions from time to time that she is glad that she hasn't inherited any girls as her offspring. So one day during a car ride with her, I asked what her opinion is on transgender identified individuals, and she mentioned that she is fine with people who are transgender and their own personal journeys, however; she mentioned that she doesn't want their lives to influence my decisions. I have known that I wasn't a boy in my mind for most of my life, but haven't had a clue how to deal with this until having almost completed most of puberty. I spoke to an endocrinologist and a psychiatrist and have received a letter already that I am ready for hormone replacement therapy. The only thing I have left to do is come out to my guardian since I live under her roof. Thoughts of abandonment keep flooding my mind and I am frightened that I may be rejected or something of the equivalent.

What are my options? How can I go about this the right way? I've been waiting for the right time to come out, but I don't want to wait too long, this is really stressing me out. Has anyone ever came out to an important family member, and what was your experience like?

Much appreciated.

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[islandgirl]

Hi SkyIndica! First of all, congrats that you have already done some of the important things as you walk along your path. You have seen and endo and a psychiatrist, and have your HRT letter. Your intention is already there. I don't know your age but you have already dealt with your health care professionals on your own. Your mother has indicated that see is 'OK' with individuals who are transgender. Coming out to family in never easy. There are many posts here that describe that journey, and I recommend that you check them out. Some go well and some not so well. This bridge  is one we must cross some time along our journey. Being scared and anxious are normal feelings. The timing of such conversations is totally up to you. You have already demonstrated that you have courage. I recommend that you preplan your conversation with your mother. You can even write your thoughts down. Be honest and straightforward. All the best! Hugs, Kelly

[Jessica]

It seems to me your mother is open to transgender people.  She only gave worthy advice.  You should not allow someone else to sway your decisions with their life.  You are unique.  I think if you show her you are doing this for yourself and in a healthy way, she will support you in your decision.