For those girls who are not out yet

[Shambles]

1st steps are oftern so daunting the ansiterpation of things can set stress and anxitiy levels through the roof, this is me too but thought id share my experiance last week.

Last sat while watching eurovison i came out to a close friend, the responce and feeling afterwards was so positive i didnt want to sink back down and i wanted to use that positivity to push foward.

Ive been wearing coloured varnish at weekends and clear while at work but last week i decided to keep the colour on for work. It was nerve racking but sooo glad i did it.

Kinda dark pink in colour, some didnt notice but im sure most did. Only one person spoke to me about it and my reply too why are you wearing varnish was simply because i wanted too, and left it at that.

Yes it might show im different but it doesnt mean i need to come out too all right away.

If your getting too worked up over things like i do find something that sets you apart, own it. Be confidant and dont appologies. Some changes wont out you but will make you feel far more relaxed than you csn imaine right now.

To be honest i havent a clue how i would respond if anyone asks me outright if im trans but im cool with just saying i wanted to wear it. Went through the week as if its normal and didnt draw attention to it myself.

The first time ive felt relaxed in a long time x

[KathyLauren]

"Be confident and don't apologize" is great advice for all of us. 

Before we transition, we are basically in hiding.  Some of us are in hiding even from ourselves for decades.  Gradually, we stop hiding from ourselves, then from those closest to us.  Eventually, we have to face the prospect of stopping hiding from the world at large.  That's what social transition is: stopping hiding.

So anything small we can do, like painting our nails, to practise not hiding will train us to not hide the elephant in the room.  If you can do the small things confidently and without apology, then the bigger things become easier.

[Shambles]

"Be confident and don't apologize" is great advice for all of us. 

Before we transition, we are basically in hiding.  Some of us are in hiding even from ourselves for decades.  Gradually, we stop hiding from ourselves, then from those closest to us.  Eventually, we have to face the prospect of stopping hiding from the world at large.  That's what social transition is: stopping hiding.

So anything small we can do, like painting our nails, to practise not hiding will train us to not hide the elephant in the room.  If you can do the small things confidently and without apology, then the bigger things become easier.

Love it! Got the combo of tinted moisteriser and nails for work today. What you said sums things up nicely x