FTM, always failed at being a girl. My presentation was always "art student," super androgynous. Lydia from Beetlejuice, Emily the Strange.
I never fit in with the girls, and the few that were my friends remained friends with me DESPITE the fact I didn't do girly things. I always hung out with nerdy/artsy boys - I think I preferred intellectual expressions of masculinity because I wasn't hindered by my body in competition with other men.
People were shocked when I came out because I didn't fit into their image of the rugged butch lesbian stereotype. (Because we all know being transgender is just a case of extreme homosexuality.
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Right before I cracked, I had a brief phase where I was determined to "get in touch with my feminine energy," wore only dresses, and went to beauty school... which actually made me realize I will never fit in with women, as a woman. I am neurologically incapable.
Post transition... I'm still doing the art student thing, just a little more masc, and this time, it feels right. My best friend (a gay man) and my therapist both warned me that I am going to come off as incredibly gay, but considering I'm attracted to men and built my career in the beauty industry, it might just work to my advantage.
I have idolized glittery, gender-bending electro-pop stars since I was a kid, so, god, please, let me live my dreams.
Ironically, I get along with women so much better now. I think it was the incongruence between my looks and mannerisms that signaled to them something was weird with me: I looked like them, but when I talked, it was obvious my brain computed in a completely different way. Now I'm not expected to be "one of them," so it's not off-putting when something completely different or unexpected comes out of my mouth. I also feel more relaxed now that the pressure to perform an impossible task is no longer on my shoulders. My behavior reads so much more normal if I am being read as a guy.