Where do you keep?

[Tria]

As I am not out yet, I have a friend who stores my clothes and shoes and makeup so finding time to get dressed can be a challenge, however I do have a few things around the house that the SO is unaware of and I can slip on while she is out.
I am wondering where others keep there stuff?
Thanks

[elkie-t]

Rent a storage if you can afford it, preferably with 24/7 access (or at least accessible when you can drop your clothes off). Preferably air conditioned (so your makeup don't cake in heat) and with lights inside (so you can change there).

If you need to clean your clothes - some laundromat are offering wash and fold services, you can drop off your dirty stuff there and pick it up a few days later.

Btw, sneaking on your wife may lead to divorce if she finds out.


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[Chloe M]

I'm also not fully out Tria, I have a shipmate that stores the bulk of my things when on leave and kitbag for the rest. At least you have a sympathetic friend to store things for just now x

[Tria]

Thanks  for the inputs and yes i am very lucky to have her help.
I am also quite aware of the risk with having some items here, unfortunately there are times when i need to dress and y friend is not available and i just feel that i need to be in something, and to alleviate that i keep a few things around in places i know the SO doesn't look.
I know its not an ideal situation but on the pus side i have an appointment with a therapist this week which i am taking as steps in the right direction!
Cheers!!

[SueNZ]

Thanks  for the inputs and yes i am very lucky to have her help.
I am also quite aware of the risk with having some items here, unfortunately there are times when i need to dress and y friend is not available and i just feel that i need to be in something, and to alleviate that i keep a few things around in places i know the SO doesn't look.
I know its not an ideal situation but on the pus side i have an appointment with a therapist this week which i am taking as steps in the right direction!
Cheers!!

Good on you Tria,
Gaining help is a great first step.
For this to work out long term, your SO needs to know who you are and what you need.
My wife still struggles since coming out to her 3 years ago but we have found a way to make it work.
The relationship part needs lots of time and understanding.
Good luck with the therapist.

[KITTYCINDERS]

I hate to say this, but I have learned alot since my first SO in the 70s who said it repulsed her. My next two have been very supportive. So what I have learned is your SO is supposed to be your best friend, one you trust with your deepest secrets. If you don't have that you need to ask why? You have to be honest with who you are and what changes are occurring, and you have to be honest with her about who you are becoming. If she cannot support it or you, it is better to learn it now, before things really get intense. If your changing is not something she can support and doesn't even want to try, then you are with the wrong SO. Sorry to be blunt, but it is the only way to be. With my first one I snuck around and hid clothes and I got caught. She was so repulsed by it I suppressed it, which only led to inceased frustration and a bad temper. As soon as I was able to be me that pressure was relieved. So be honest with your SO and find out for sure

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[Jailyn]

At the time when I was crossdressing, I kept mine in her dresser. You might laugh and be like what?! I wore her clothes to be honest then got a few things for myself. I hid mine in a camping backpack that I had in the closet. So she never suspected cause the backpack was always in the same spot. I had all sorts of things in it like padded panties and falsies. So there are things like that you can do or if you have luggage in the top of the closet, put some of your things in it and bring it down when she is out. I have been where you are, so I know it's hard to hide your things.

[BrianaJ]

For most, it would be easier to say where they DIDN'T store their things.  LOL  My mom knew and was quietly supportive when I was a kid and lived at home.  She kept a small chest of things for me at the end of the hall...I think mostly to keep me out of her stuff, but also to protect me.    My SO knew right out of the gate.  However, as our family grew, we still had to conceal things.  While I could keep underclothes and dresses with hers, my shoes didn't fit in and wigs - how do you explain that??  We kept things in locked chests, suitcases, and even the occasional box.

I have to agree with what Kitty said.  Long term, you will most likely be found out and probably have lots of issues going forward.  As hard as it is, I do believe it's generally better to open up to the one you love and be honest.  Most spouses can deal with a lot of things if their partner is open and honest with them.  Keeping secrets and deceiving them is when trouble starts.   

[EliseMichelle]

I'm single now, but still have kids at home, so I just keep everything in a suitcase and garment bag in my closet. But when I was married, I had the same issue. I used to keep some stuff behind a built in bookcase in our home. The bookcase could be pulled out from the wall, and there was empty space behind. One day I got a phone call as I was cleaning off my makeup and I totally forgot about the open secret compartment. My wife came home a few hours later and found everything. It wasn't a pretty scene. I can laugh about it now, but at the time. Ugh...

[Laurie]

Hi Tria,

  I'm Laurie. No admonitions from me because you have read enough of them already. I will just answer your question with a locked took box in the garage. Nothing unusual about a man and his tools or a lady and her tools for that matter.

Hugs,
   Laurie

[Tria]

Thank you all for your responses, i have been talking with my therapist and we have a timeline in order to tell the SO which actually moved up as some things we had been waiting for have already occurred.
I have also been talking to a couple friends who have agreed to house most of my stuff until i am able to talk to my SO so i am only keeping a few things around the house.

Your ideas have been appreciated and yes we are getting closer to me telling her everyday.

[Susan Baum]

For most, it would be easier to say where they DIDN'T store their things.  LOL  My mom knew and was quietly supportive when I was a kid and lived at home.  She kept a small chest of things for me at the end of the hall...I think mostly to keep me out of her stuff, but also to protect me.    My SO knew right out of the gate.  ...
Most spouses can deal with a lot of things if their partner is open and honest with them.  Keeping secrets and deceiving them is when trouble starts.   

I was also blessed with an understanding mother and SO.
From the time I was 10 or so, Mom stored my "special" undies in the top drawer of my dresser and hung everything else in the closet with my other "hung" apparel. My sister and I also swapped clothes for a couple of years until I grew to tall to do so   .  The only time I had to hide stuff was my freshman year in college but resolved the problem with an affordable off-campus apartment. I was really a hovel but it was my hovel with a private yard.

My SO also knew about my "alter ego" from the get-go - in fact, it was she who named me Susan. Given my background, I can't imagine what it would be like to even try to keep CDing from an intimate someone and personally feel anything short of that is almost disingenuous. You may possibly be very surprised at the support and guidance you receive!

After I got married, I still kept my skirts and tops in our joint closet; before long, with the exception of longer vs shorter pants, the distinction between her's and her's had all but disappeared. You cannot believe how much fun shopping can be... Since our daughter grew up with the idea I wore dresses, when I transitioned it was a non-issue.

Susan

[biannne]

When I was cross dressing I used to keep a lot of my stuff in the trunk of my car
Then I bought a tote and put it in my garage


Anna

[Jin]

I keep mine in the closet, right next to hers. My wife found out about me the first time she undressed me, years ago. A snicker, a giggle, then a mischevious grin.

Sooner is better than later.

[Johnni Gyrl]

Before I separated completely from my wife, I used to keep a stash of stuff in a holdall in the attic. She was too scared of heights to use the ladders and go up there. As our marriage broke down and she became consumed with having affairs, I cared less about her knowing and brought the holdall downstairs and mainly always kept out of view, though she knew about its presence and what the contents were. I was honest with her from day one though about cross-dressing, she loved the idea and it even turned her on. Time moved on and after we married I didn't dress again, until the marriage started failing. Divorce is pending and it's actually for the best. She can get on with her affairs and I can decide when to transition. Win-win.

[gamey]

i remember i have 2 backpack kind of beg and stuff everything in it...but now is in my closet no need to hide now, as i .....have sex change and living as a woman(long story), i know i shouldnt have done it...

[Karrie]

Luckily my SO fully supports all my girlie desires. Therefore my clothes are hanging in the closet , dresser drawers  and other things are mixed in with hers.
This is a far cry from when my ex was around. All hidden with my hunting stuff which she kept out of.

Karrie

[MoreThan2]

Happy to say in my closet and dresser. My family, though conservative, have been pretty supportive.