My dear Danielle -
Aww - your new Avatar looks fantastic! Glad to see your smile again.
No worries about taking a break on the forums, we all understand the importance and the stress level of your current travels.
I usually cut family some slack on the dead naming and misgendering, as long as they try. My family gets it right about 50% of the time, my wife's family has not gotten it right once and I don't even see them trying which is a bit disturbing to me...
Being dead named after a long time of being correctly named and gendered is especially hard, on top you pass 100%, so there is just no question.
I hope the remainder of your trip will be OK and I wish you all the strength you need!
Hugs,
Sarah