Positive Mindset... put away negativity

[Northern Star Girl]

Welcome to my newest thread.  Here I will continue to post ways that will help others to promote a healthy, happy, and less stress-filled lifestyle.
 
While all of that is important for everyone, for the trans-community especially it is a current and much talked about subject here on the Forums because our transitioning brings along with it difficult issues pertaining to self-acceptance and self-worth.... and dealing with those close to us that may not accept us and our personal transition decision.

      Here is a brief introductory primer of what this thread is all about.

First, you are most likely aware from reading my many postings and reply comments on various Forum threads... and definitely on my own thread   "I am the HUNTED PREY : Danielle's Chronicles"   that I am a Glass Half Full and Optimistic person.

My favorite quote and personal mind-set regarding this comes from Winston Churchill as he penned the following quote during England's dark days during World War 2.
       "A Pessimist see Difficulty in every Opportunity,
           an Optimist sees Opportunity in every Difficulty"

I will be posting much more very soon.
Stay positive out there, life is much more enjoyable and healthy if you do. 

Hugs and well wishes to all of my readers,
Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

Turning negative thinking into an Optimistic Positive Mindset
               
I've never done it before.                        >It's an opportunity to learn something new.

It's too complicated.                                  >I'll tackle it from a different angle.

I don't have the resources.                      >Necessity is the mother of invention.

I'm too lazy to get this done.                    >I wasn't able to fit it into my schedule, but I can re-examine some priorities.

There's no way it will work.                      >I can try to make it work.

It's too radical a change.                          >Let's take a chance.

No one bothers to communicate with me. >I'll see if I can open the channels of communication.

I don't have many friends                        >Be friendly, be the first to say hello and introduce yourself

I'm not going to get any better at this      >I'll give it another try.

[Perry]

What a wonderful idea @Danielle . I plan to visit often to benefit from your insight and encouragement. Perhaps I can even add some to the discussion.
Keep up your good work!

Perry

[davina61]

Well I agree with your second post ( would quote it but don't know how) so to go with your suggestion should get of my lazy back side and work out how. Glass 3/4 full for me and to quote Mont Python " Always look on the bright side of life" don't forget to whistle 

[Maddie86]

I definitely need a thread like this, my negativity has been getting the best of me lately, I'm looking forward to your updates!

[Amaki]

This is so helpful, I've started to cut toxicity and negativity from my life. I deactivated my Facebook, I've cut the toxic friends (its harder than it sounds because we've been friends for so long but yeah).

[Katie Jade]

Hi
Talking to my counsellor tonight I reckoned that I think my exceptions were always too high (fantasy?) and that I'm getting my mind set to accept that I am who I am and will be a trans woman, not cis, which is good, people may point and stare some times, fool them I think for wasting their lives in such a wasteful way. I just need to be happy for me and then I will be at peace, and it doesn't matter what other people think. My dog loves me whatever I am, so I'm getting to see what I really need to accept (5th level of the 'onion' - there is book out there somewhere explain the levels of self perception, but is a while since I read it - 20+ years..)
So love me, love life, go do it.
Hugz
Katie

[Roll]

Great thread! <3

I'm generally a very positive person, but every now and then things get the best of me and I spiral for a day or two or thirty. Even when you are are positive most of the time, when you are down it helps to be reminded of these things!

[islandgirl]

Great idea, Danielle! Great reminders for me, too! Been in too deep of a funk over the past few weeks. Time to believe that I can make a difference!
Look forward to future posts!

Hugs,
Kelly

[KathyLauren]

Great thread, Danielle!

                 
I don't have many friends                         >Be friendly, be the first to say hello and introduce yourself

This is one that I am enjoying learning.  I never was good at introducing myself when I wasn't free to be myself.  Now that I am myself, I find it much easier.

A couple of months ago, while walking the dog, I passed a house that had recently sold, and I noticed that the new people had moved in.  I saw that the woman was out in the front yard inspecting the trees.

I crossed the road and walked into the driveway to say hi.  I introduced myself, so did she, and we had a nice chat.  I have no idea if she read me as trans, and it didn't matter.  Introducing myself made me "not weird", approachable and friendly.  So now, even if they have guessed or heard through the grapevine that I am trans (and I don't know or care if they have), they know how to relate to me.

My wife and I went over to their place today to buy some lavender plants (that's their business), and they gave us the grand tour of their greenhouse.

So different from the old days!

[Karen]

Love it.

Seems overwhelming ......write down your vision and goal, and take each day and baby steps. 

[Mikaela]

Wonderful idea! We are people who are literally recreating our physical reality in ways that require massive courage, commitment, and creativity. This is exciting stuff! Sure, there are those who want to rain on our parade, but they can go the way of the many things (body parts?) that we must let go of as we move into our intentional lives...


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[HappyMoni]

No, I don't want to be positive! Oh, okay you talked me into it. Davina's quoting Monty Python wasn't playing fair with me trying to go negative. My contribution to the thread would stress laughing. Ever notice during the most stressful, tense moments, if a little humorous moment happens, things seem a little better. Okay, so this post isn't funny, I get that. Right now I will settle for a little, evil smirk that Dr. Evil might sneer at. Come on #2, you know you want to!
Moni
Tough crowd! Good luck Danielle!

[Jayne01]

Hi Danielle! I love this thread, what a great idea. You always set such a great example on how to live life to the fullest. I can't think of any inspiring quotes to add here right now. I will just say that I have always thought myself to be a glass half full kind of person, but I never seemed to put that thinking into practice until very recently when I have learned to love who I am. It's up to each of us to make the most out of our own lives and by sharing our experiences with others, hopefully we can help improve someone else's life. Thank you for being one of those people that improves the life of others.

Hugs,
Jayne

[Laurie]

  Dang it you found me out. I am one of those "That damn glass is more than half empty because I drank some of it. So there. Whats wrong with all of you?"  Yes, I can't find the bright side of things  if it were to hit me in the face. Not even when it flies through the air in a leap at me. Now a kiss on the lips (or two) in a parking garage might do the job for me, but it may mot work for everyone.
  On the serious side, I really am a pessimist. If something can go wrong it will.

Hugs,
  Laurie

[DawnOday]

Laurie I hear you. Fortunately beginning HRT has turned a lifetime of negativity into a feeling of liberation. I no longer have long bouts of depression. I'm so lucky to have let myself acknowledge what was hidden for so many years. The last two years have been like a rebirth. Today I went to my vocal therapy, in seattle's Capital Hill. My therapist has me dress for our appointment. After the appointment I found a place to park. Not as easy as it sounds. I walked the streets of Capital Hill and it was just so cool. Lot's of businesses with rainbow flags in the windows. I really felt at home. If you are ever in the area and you want some great pastry. On 15th next to Safeway. There is a Bakery Nouveau. Get the double baked chocolate croissant and a cup of cocoa. You will not be disappointed. And if that does not make you optimistic about your next opportunity. Nothing will.  Take it one day at a time.

[maybesoph]

Ive literally just been talking about deactivating Facebook, it's turned into such a negative thing, with constant bickering and selfish views.
Think I'm going to hit the log out for good button on there.

Also this positive thread is a great idea, my therapist keeps telling me to stop looking for negatives and to change my mindset.
So Thank you

Sophie

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[steph2.0]

Thank you, Danielle.

Stephanie

[pamelatransuk]

I have said it before Danielle and this idea just goes to prove it; your threads are uplifting and you are great motivator.

I am sure you will have much to share and advise here.

Hugs

Pamela

[Chelsea]

Thank you Danielle. I need this more than anything right now.

Hugs,
       Chelsea