Quote from: Aurelius on November 07, 2008, 11:43:13 AMPS...I think we got way off the original subject, what was it...oh yeah, abortion. Sorry.
The other thing I got from that initial comment:
Quote from: lisagurl on December 28, 2007, 07:52:16 AM
Quality of life is rarely thought of in the heat of passion. About 4 billion people living the thoughtless mistakes of their parents will never enjoy the full fruits of life because they out strip the resources of the garden earth.
...was the part about 'living thoughtless mistakes'. I could have easily 'fathered' a child. And in fact, the macho, snarky comment, "I have no children -- that I
know of..." could apply to me. There's a slim chance that somewhere out there is a 30-year-old person, half of whose genes came from me.
I could have been a parent, but no way did I nor do I have the traditionalist qualities of a
FATHER. Dammit, I always wanted to be the mother, but I was too smart and understood that it could never be.
But for most people babies happen too automatically. You can conceive them when you didn't mean to.
But there's some sort of drive to procreate, come what may and damn the torpedoes. I think that drive is as much a juggernaut as the drive some of us have, or have had, to transition. It's not rational, but you're driven anyway.
And those who place so much credence in traditional families and raising your children properly so they turn out as successful, unspoiled adults - mythologize family/parenting to cover up the fact that producing a baby is really easy to do, and beyond the genetic material you provide, the next big thing you can do to influence how they will turn out boils down to location, location, location, and what goes on under your roof accounts for less than ten percent of their finished, adult personalities.
It's really a lot like a craps player who, when winning, believes it to be his/her skill as a shooter, and when losing, blames the dice/the table/the other players/the casino.
And so we go along 'making the world a better place' by taking the privilege of a legally-sanctioned marriage away from same-sex couples "because they can't procreate" (among other lame excuses, but this one's germane to the argument at hand), whilst the fuse on the no-more-oil bomb burns brighter and hotter and faster towards its' inevitable end because, y'know, people can't help but procreate.
Simone, on the 13 children you mentioned, primitive societies needed that strategy because maybe 3 or 4 would live to reproduce. And post-natal depression allows a mother to make a detached determination if
this child is worth the expenditure of her resources (production of breast milk, tethered to a totally dependent infant, temporary loss of fertility whilst breast feeding,) or if the child is too sickly, kill it and return quickly to fertility for another, perhaps more successful go.
Modern sanitation and medicine have reduced the need for bearing many children, but we conversely haven't reduced the
drive to procreate, and we are fast becoming the victims of the unintended consequences of our skill at healthcare and extracting and using the finite oil here on earth.
Karen