Marcy and I have befriended a very nice woman about six months ago, who sees us as natal females, lesbian, partnered, and with children. Lots of short conversations, we see her every week in a service capacity, but she is becoming more relaxed and friendly, I am sure in a friends-only way. She talks to us about her problems in her common law marriage, and talks about her abusive husband, and about leaving him. We talk about our kids, and the logistics of living in a crowded house.
She has come to a point now, that she is starting to hint at how this all fits together.....two women, children, grandchildren. I guess the question I have is, how should we respond to any potential questions of motherhood, fatherhood, etc?
This happened in another situation with me at work, when a female customer asked me about my husband. I told her I had a partner. She thought that was wonderful, and asked if we adopted. "No.....", I told her, "we didn't adopt" (pause) "Our kids have two moms".
I could never have guessed what her response would be, but she immediately threw her arms around me, gave me a long, swaying bear hug, stepped back, and said "that is just so...AWESOME! Two mommies! What better way to raise children". Pretty cool. Someone I will probably never see again.
The first woman I started talking about, is a different story. We will see her time and time again, each time getting to know more and more about each other. I guess my worry is, coming out to her at some point, and possibly jeopardizing a friendship, though a minor friendship. One of the things that comes with being semi-stealth in some parts of my life, and totally out in others. Sigh.
Any ideas how to handle questions?