The struggle for happiness, I believe is ever elusive. Picture a rabbit on a self-powered tread-mill with a carrot and stick just feet in front of it, so it's motivated to power the treadmill. To me it is the same with happiness and our pursuit of it.
So what is the treadmill for me? And why am I on it? and more importantly, how can I get off it, and flank that carrot for digestion purposes? For me the treadmill represents, the elusive search to find my idenity in others, if you search thru my other posts, I tend to be non-conventional in my thinking.
Doing so has been lonely at times, but I have become more and more of me, instead of a mixture of people that fail-me and of more-importance don't necessarily have my best-interest at heart.
I'm not completely off the treadmill, for I still choose to look, for confirmation outside myself from time to time, because I'm human. Accepting this, yet challenging yourself to figure out how to get that carrot without the treadmill, is your key to contentment. Happiness will be found in enjoying the carrot, but till then, you're going to be sweating bullets (as you, Americans, say), trying to get there. Good luck, and if you figure it out, please let us know.