On moving on with life... and helping your SO do the same.

[krobinson103]

I once watched a movie. It was about a women, who was dying of cancer finding a new wife for her husband. I thought interesting idea. I find myself in the situation of well.. doing just that Not because I'm dying but its become clear that we aren't going to be able to happy together now that transition is well underway and she has asked for help in finding a new husband. Its odd finding a replacement for old me, but for her its necessary.

Its been years since either of us dated. For me thats no issue because I found a g/f online (well she found me) and its all rolling along nicely. I don't think thats the path for her though. Whats a good way to meet people looking for a serious relationship these days?
She is CIS, very hetero and will take the kids with her.

Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction...

[KathyLauren]

Not that I am any authority on dating (trust me, I'm not!), but I found that the most effective strategy was getting involved in activities that had meaning for me and that would put me in contact with other people who shared similar outlooks and values.  The strategy works because you can relax and be yourself, while meeting compatible people who are also relaxed and being themselves.

Following that strategy, I met my wife in a hiking club.  We had both signed up for the same hike, and we encountered each other on the trail high on a mountain.  The rest, as they say, is history.

[Virginia]

I think it's wonderful the two of are doing this. My wife and I have each shared our thoughts on who we could see each other marrying when one of us dies. In our case we didn't have to look beyond our mutual friends.

[Northern Star Girl]

I concur with the thoughts that  @KathyLauren expressed :
 
Getting involved in clubs, charity events, volunteer organizations, accepting churches, meetings with others that have similar hobbies and interests, etc are probably the best ways to safely find compatible others.  Over a period of time when encountering those possibly like-minded individuals in recurring circumstances, one can get a feeling for their personality, their reliability, their financial responsibility, their good qualities, their bad qualities, whether they have a job or not, etc....  all in a real-life environment that one has a much more difficult time hiding in like the do in so many on line dating sites where deception and false "advertising" is often the norm.

Almost 2 years ago I moved to a new far away town, not knowing anyone....   I immediately got involved in civic events, frequenting my next door local coffee shop which is a popular place in my town, got to know a lot of the townspeople as they got to know me, I got in a book club, a gym girls club, hiking activities with others, etc, etc...

...and as a result I have developed a lot of friends and acquaintances... and I even discovered some suitors as well... in a place that when I first moved here, I knew absolutely no one. 
The basic premise for me was "if I want friends, I need to be friendly" and be the first to smile, introduce myself and to make myself available to the kinds of various opportunities that I mentioned above.

Danielle