Well, this would be a guess based on my A-levels...
But I'd say 'latency' for the first one, although it depends on whether you class gender identity as instinct or taught. Nonetheless, in the latent stage they'd begin to understand it, and thus understand whether they're acting within their expectations.
As for the second one, I have no idea. I'd guess 'instrumental', because the person only thinks of the tools they need to get the job done - and thus the instruments.
-Josie