My uncle is a perverted pig!

[Julia1996]

Hi everyone. So yesterday I was at my grandparents house helping my grandma do some stuff and my grandpa and uncle come in. My uncle goes over there a lot unfortunately. If I know he's there or supposed to be going over there then I make sure not to be there. My grandma understands that I'm happy to help her with anything but if my uncle shows up while Im there then I will leave. So when he showed up yesterday I got my stuff and left. I was about to get in my car when he comes outside. He said he guessed I was pretty much recovered. I told him yes I was. Then he said " well I would love to see it if you ever want to take a picture of it and send it to me". I told him he wasn't funny. He said he wasn't trying to be funny. He totally meant it!!

I told him he was disgusting and that I couldn't believe he would be such a perve. He said he just wanted to see if it looked real and how it compared to a real one. He said he figured I would be anxious to show it off. I told him I would never go around showing everyone my genitalia and that he had a nasty mind. Then he asked me if he was supposed to believe I hadn't let anyone see it. I told him the only person who has seen it was Tristan. He said " oh yeah right. Like Tyler and your dad haven't seen it". I told him of course they hadn't and that it was messed up that he would think that. He said he figured after my dad had spent that much money on my surgery he would want to see if he got his moneys worth. He said he sure would. I told him that was because he was a perve and my dad was not. Then he said he didn't care what I said that he knew Tyler had seen it. Then he said " considering how" "close" (he did the air quotes) you two have always been I figured he would have been the first to see it and it wouldn't surprise me if he was the first to try it out".

I literally had to force myself not to slap him across the face! I told him he was a twisted ## and got in the car and left. I couldn't believe he actually said that stuff to me! But on the way home I thought about it. No doubt my uncle is perverted. I knew that already. But his wanting to see my muffin wasn't even so much about him being a perve. It's because he does not and never will consider me female. To him I'm just a " ->-bleeped-<-" with a created vagina so he didn't see anything wrong with his asking to see it. But what he said about Tyler and I was totally pervy. He has kind of implied before that Tyler and I were having some kind of sexual thing. My dad has yelled at him and thrown him out of our house a couple of times for that. The only thing I can figure is that he could never understand why my brother had been loving toward me rather that trying to beat the gay out of me like a "good" older brother should because that's what he would have done. I guess he thought I had turned Tyler gay as well. He actually warned Tyler a few times over the years that he better be careful he didn't "turn into a ->-bleeped-<-" from spending a lot of time with me.

I didn't tell my dad or Tyler what my uncle did and I'm not going to. Nothing at all good would come from telling them and I don't want to create more drama with him. I have always hated him but now I think he's a disgusting perve as well. I totally  wish he would move someplace far away like my mom did. I would even help him pack.

[amandam]

Wow! I am so sorry. He is the worst kind of pig. He gets on you like this, but I think he really wants to do you. Why else would he talk like this. He's the secret "->-bleeped-<-", he's hating on himself because he's attracted to you. That's my take on it.

I think finally your dad might kick his butt. If anyone talked to my daughter like that it would be on. Can you get a restraining order?

[Jessica]

Your uncle is a disgusting perverted pig!!!
If he continues to act in this manner, you absolutely need to talk to your father!

Hugs, Jess

[amandam]

I think you need to talk to your grandparents too, so they can keep him away if you go there. You have a right to see them "unmolested".

[Maid Marion]

Sorry to hear that.  Remember that it isn't your fault.  You can't choose your relatives.

[Tessa James]

Sorry Julie, that was gross.  I am reminded of how many people can compartmentalize and sexualize us in to clinical parts for comparative purposes. 

It seems he completely misses or disregards your humanity and the effort required to own your identity.  Smart of you to give him little time on your busy wavelengths.

[JudiBlueEyes]

Julia you need to tell your dad about this conversation.  His brother is perverted.  Remember that keeping it a secret will only empower him.  He believes he said nothing wrong, just like all abusers.  That's what he is.
Judi

[Janes Groove]

Two words:  Restraining Order.

[Gertrude]

Tell your dad. Not telling him is just protecting the perve. It's not your fault and family should know what they're dealing with.


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[Madeline]

I didn't tell my dad or Tyler what my uncle did and I'm not going to. Nothing at all good would come from telling them and I don't want to create more drama with him. I have always hated him but now I think he's a disgusting perve as well. I totally  wish he would move someplace far away like my mom did. I would even help him pack.

You absolutely need to tell your family. That man is an absolute pig and telling people is the only way you'll get him off your back. If all else fails though, get a restraining order.
Hope things get better!
Lots of Love,
X Maria

[Lady Sarah]

Your uncle mentally molested you. It's not much different than being physical molested. To not tell your father, your uncle will get away with far worse than he has already done. I don't care how tough you are, you need your father's help with this. With your father being a cop, he may be able to do what it takes to stop your uncle fom harrassing you any further. Sexual assault is no joke, even if it is only verbally.

[Laurie]

Hi Julia,

  I am glad you have come back. It is good to see you posting here again. You have always been a popular entity on the forums and you were missed.

  As far as the family pervert goes I am on the side of every else here your family should be told. They need to know in order to protect you from him. You say nothing good will become of telling them, but Hun, you are wrong. you Dad, Tyler, Tristan, and your grandparents all love you and will be on your side in this. He needs to know that you will not put up with his crap and your family will help get that point across to him.
 
Hugs,
   Laurie

[Rachel]

Hi Julia, I am sorry that happened to you. He is not a safe person and you need to distance yourself from him. Your family needs to know what he did and that you and he are not to be in the same place.

[Susan Baum]

Hi, Julia.
Here's yet another "vote" for telling your dad and the rest of the family - I am just wondering if a restraining order would be strong enough to protect you from that vile scumbag.

I'm happy to see you posting again, even if it isn't such a happy subject.

Susan

[Julia1996]

I took everyone's advice and told my dad when he got home. He was was very unhappy about it. His ears turned red which is always a sign he is really pissed off. He went over to my uncle's house to talk to him. I will let everyone know what happened with that when he gets home. I have no idea what my dad's going to do. But I'm sure it won't be anything violent. My dad is exceptionally good at controlling his temper and not hitting someone even though he might really want to. He had to learn that being a cop.

[JudiBlueEyes]

Thank you.  We're all glad you informed your Dad.  This was an important step to take. 

Also as Laurie noted, I am glad you are back to posting regularly.  I missed your wit and humor.  You see things I could never see and it makes for a brighter day to read about your "escapades and observations".  I hope your healing is going well.
Judi   

[Queenie]

Ooh! That's good. Sounds like such an adorable dad. Protecting his daughter. Geez I wish i had a daughter father relationship with mine

[amandam]

Good news! I hope he doesn't break your uncle's face, but wouldn't blame him.

[big kim]

Your Uncle's disgusting. You should have chinned him long ago

[Bari Jo]

It's good to have a Julia fix again.  Welcome back.  I echo everyone's sentiments here.  Your uncle is a pig, and it was the right thing to do in telling your dad.  Looking eagerly to what happens next.

Bari Jo