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unhappy with trans life

Started by noitsbecky, August 09, 2018, 09:20:41 PM

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noitsbecky

so lately i have been feeling very depressed i have a councler and i am on meds along with HRT. i live semi stealth for about 6 years full time for 10.  when i fist got together with my spouce i took grs off the table cause it seemed insurmountable.  last year my spouce said leta put it back on the table.  i was elated but hesitant, so latley i allowed myself to really want it but since i cant afford it and my son moved back in im not sure if i ever will.  i feel like giving up on my dream, taking it off the table for good i don't feel like it will ever be in my cards. just wantes to share im not suicidal no worries
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GingerVicki

Ouch! This is a tough situation. I'm glad that you are not suicidal. It sounds like your family would really miss you and that they need you.

I hope that you find a viable solution.
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Harley Quinn

I'm so sorry to hear that circumstances aren't making things easy. I hope it turns around and you can get everything that you need.
At what point did my life go Looney Tunes? How did it happen? Who's to blame?... Batman, that's who. Batman! It's always been Batman! Ruining my life, spoiling my fun! >:-)
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Allison S

[emoji20] I'm so sorry.. I know, like everyone here almost, how hard it is to hold back our true selves. I hope you pull through and that this is only a temporary obstacle you're faced with.

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pamelatransuk

I feel for you Becky as it so difficult to get out of depression and I know how painful and demotivating it is. My only advice is to try and concentrate on what you have already achieved but I know it far from easy to amend your thinking.

Hugs

Pamela


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Denise

I'm sorry you're feeling down and this is a big cause.  Might I suggest something.

GCS/SRS is not a one time event.  It is the culmination of many little events leading up to the "big event".  Some are free, some unfortunately are not.

Here are just a couple things you probably must do before surgery day and they take time.

* Letters.  There hypocritic oath, at least in the US, says "do no harm".  To an outsider SRS is harming a perfectly working appendage.  That's why surgeon's require letters.  It's kinda like an insurance policy against a lawsuit.  I'm not saying get them today, but talk to your therapist about writing one.

* Choose a Dr.  Do your research.  Learn what you can, find information on multiple doctor's policies and practices and costs.  All of that varies wildly from one doctor to the next.  Some surgeon's charge on a sliding scale.  Surgeons in different regions have totally different charges. 

* Electrolysis.  Not every doctor requires it but from what I've read, removing all the hair from the surgical region reduces surgery time. That's important!  Electrolysis is not free but spread out over a year or more can reduce the burden. 

SRS takes time to get done.  A friend of mine did everything in about 6-12 months and another took the slower path of many years.  But like transition it's many steps and it's up to you how fast you do it.

Think about the bright side that you are closed today than you were when it was not on the table.

It's hard to see the positive sometimes.

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Dena

You never know what life will hand you. When I started out with therapy, I didn't know how to do anything. I had no clue how to even present as a woman and there was nobody to teach me. It took 8 years and several lucky accidents but I was able to find what I needed and there I was in the hospital waiting for surgery. Never say never because you might find insurance or a source of income that could lead to surgery. Just keep your eyes open and be willing to investigate options that come your way. Check my signature if you want more details about me.
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