Do some trans people not know they are trans as kids?

[Rutka71]

I've known since the age of three, since my sister was born, only started transitioning at the age of 43 though. But gender dysphoria never manifested itself in me as depression.

[MeTony]

I knew I was a guy until my chest started growing. I got depressed for many years. Did not know transgender existed.


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[krobinson103]

I knew at twelve. Couldn't do anything about it for 32 years... but I knew very well what was needed.

[RobynD]

I may have, but I did not have the information or terminology to understand it. I always felt an affinity for women in additional ways my peers did not. It was not until my 20s that I suspected I might be a woman and then I was convinced that I would have to stick it out presenting as a man with many feminine traits.

Later I came to believe I could transition.

[Sam1066]

Thank you everyone for your responses!

It is good to know that I'm not the only one! It sounds like some people know right away and some dont.

I knew I wished I had been born a girl, then I suppressed it and didn't think about it until I was over 30. There were other little signs that things were off which I attributed to personality differences, like how I would always sit corsslegged like a girl as a kid, and had to retrain myself so as not to stand out.

The vast majority of stories I see in the media about trans people are individuals who knew as soon as they could talk, cross dressed before middle school, and came out to their parents as soon as they knew the words to do so. That kinda made it feel like i was just weird or crazy. Thanks so much for the validation!

I had "random depression" my whole life mostly around social situations and especially when I would talk to cis-girls. The more I dig in, the more that feels like it could be related to all of this, since exploring this box I haven't felt this feelings hardly at all! So... there's that. Has anyone had that experience?

[krobinson103]

Thank you everyone for your responses!

It is good to know that I'm not the only one! It sounds like some people know right away and some dont.

I knew I wished I had been born a girl, then I suppressed it and didn't think about it until I was over 30. There were other little signs that things were off which I attributed to personality differences, like how I would always sit corsslegged like a girl as a kid, and had to retrain myself so as not to stand out.

The vast majority of stories I see in the media about trans people are individuals who knew as soon as they could talk, cross dressed before middle school, and came out to their parents as soon as they knew the words to do so. That kinda made it feel like i was just weird or crazy. Thanks so much for the validation!

I had "random depression" my whole life mostly around social situations and especially when I would talk to cis-girls. The more I dig in, the more that feels like it could be related to all of this, since exploring this box I haven't felt this feelings hardly at all! So... there's that. Has anyone had that experience?

As time went on I experienced intense jealousy towards women simply for being female. I felt that the world was unfair. As soon as I started transition that all went away.

[Alice (nym)]

I didn't have a label for it until later in life but I've always known since I was 2 years old. But I am sure everyone's experience is different. I don't think it makes you more or less of a woman inside based on when you realised these feelings. I've been reading none stop about other people's experiences for the last 4 days trying to find something that relates to my experience. I eventually found two people who identify with me and I can identify with their experience. There is an awful lot of people on these forums and a lot of posts... not just this forum but other ones too. So 2 out of how many?  All it demonstrates is that there is a multitude of different routes that people take to realisation.

As I said, I've always known... does that make me lucky or more unfortunate that I never did anything about it?  I don't know. I am trying to work it out on why I can't put the genie back in the bottle anymore. Why I can no longer ignore it and why now.

But everyone is unique... it doesn't make everyone wrong.

[Alice (nym)]

There were other little signs that things were off which I attributed to personality differences, like how I would always sit corsslegged like a girl as a kid, and had to retrain myself so as not to stand out.

That made me smile. I never stopped sitting cross legged. It never occurred to me as being anything other than natural. I wonder if people judged me because of it. Might explain why I never got many job offers from interviews.