Sitting down or Standing up

[helenmarie]

I was reading one of our topics, when the author said she was sitting down in the bathroom having a pee. I thought to myself may be some people stand up & do not sit down. To me it is natural to go in & lift my dress/skirt up, pull my knickers down to my knees, then sit down. So the question is, do you sit down or stand up when going for a pee.

love,  Helenmarie

[Faith]

I can't remember that last time that I stood up to pee

[Carolina]

Sitting down, dress pulled up in back,  panties to knees, legs (or sometimes just knees) together.

Standing up is just Gross.


  Caroline

[sarah1972]

I started very young to sit down... after my mom made me clean the bathrooms. A lot less mess and easier cleaning.

Maybe... also a telltale sign.

These days with only using the woman's restrooms, sitting is the thing to do. With the one and only exception: Porta Potty's While I still can I do prefer standing in these...

[KathyLauren]

I sat to pee even in male mode long before I thought about transition.  Now, of course, I always sit to pee.  The sole exception is when nature calls and I am outdoors in the woods.  As long as I still have the equipment, that will continue.

[Anastasia]

I started very young to sit down... after my mom made me clean the bathrooms. A lot less mess and easier cleaning.

Maybe... also a telltale sign.

These days with only using the woman's restrooms, sitting is the thing to do. With the one and only exception: Porta Potty's While I still can I do prefer standing in these...

That's when I started to sit as well, that plus at that time I was dating my now wife of 25+ years. I was the only male in the house, so any drips could only be mine. and yes, if anybody is curious, we both lived at home, with our mothers until the day we were married.

[Lunarite]

I genuinely want to know how many regular cis men sit down. I suspect it is quite a few more than most people (including them) suspect, but for the most part no-one will talk about it because it's so un-masculine* (ha). At least half the men I know will only use cubicles** but, again, I reckon actually admitting that is 'unmanly'.

I often think everyone should sit. I mean, seriously, just because you can doesn't mean you should. Anyone who's seen the inside of men's bathrooms, especially where alcohol is served***, knows how well aiming ends up going. In some cases I wonder whether a woman couldn't do just as good a job, seriously. And how do men cope with no toilet paper? Shake it off, splashing the surrounds yet more? Continue their day with a damp crotch?

Where sitting is not an option (see above re: disgusting men's toilets), I still can't stand. Awkward hover-squats ensue, which I am sure would be an immensely confusing sight if the door came unlatched****. Unsure how anyone with different equipment manages it, as I know men don't have a full monopoly on terrible toilets.

* I knew a girl once who dumped a guy because he sat down to pee. Everything was fine before she knew but, once she discovered, that was apparently a bad sign.

** And in loads of men's toilets, each urinal takes up the space of a full cubicle, so why not just have one? At the very least, barriers between urinals would make plenty of men happier. Plus, unless the place is crazy busy, no-one uses urinals next to each other; it's an unwritten rule. So cubicle-only rooms are probably more space-efficient. Another mark in favour of unisex toilets.

*** And I've seen plenty of drunks for whom even the standing part is difficult.

**** I've just remembered America has those ridiculous gaps around cubicle doors. I've seen some where the doors only went up to (standing) chest-high. How the hell do people of any persuasion live with that?

In closing, to further deflect from the fact I've thought about this topic maybe a bit too much, some tales of terrible men at urinals from an old workplace of mine:

1. I walk in to see a man standing, holding his phone to his ear with one hand. Then, flow continuing, he takes a bite from the sandwich he was holding in his other hand...

2. There was a guy who, when he had the room to himself (cubicle-users excluded) would use the urinal, then walk to the sink, wash and dry his hands, and then put everything away and zip up.

[DawnOday]

At 6'5" I got tired early, peeing on my foot. Combined with micro penis, it made sense to sit. The problem with sitting the damn thing is too short and still pee's between the seat and the toilet rim.

[gail123]

Sitting down in most settings.
Not sure why, possibly as a silent salute to female dominance.

[Northern Star Girl]

At 6'5" I got tired early, peeing on my foot. Combined with micro penis, it made sense to sit. The problem with sitting the damn thing is too short and still pee's between the seat and the toilet rim.

@DawnOday
Dear Dawn: 
Please take this in the right way, I could not help chuckling a little reading your post reply...
...specifically your "damn thing is too short" comment.   
I genuinely feel badly for you, but of course a pre-op MTF would consider that good news?

...and I agree, as a woman, sitting is the correct way... imagine being in the women's rest room and you are standing and peeing in one of the stalls, and a passerby that can hear that you are peeing... then can inadvertently see the position of your feet under the stall door... if they are facing the toilet....   hmmmm, not good.

Hugs, and as always I am wishing you well,
Danielle

[Devlyn]

I'm laughing at the comments about anyone who's seen a men's restroom. Anyone who's seen a women's restroom knows they're just as bad as men's.

[Lunarite]

Don't rid me of my illusions! I choose to believe they are pristine and perfect places; floral-scented sanctuaries.
I mean, surely that's half the point of going through this whole process, right?

[Northern Star Girl]

I'm laughing at the comments about anyone who's seen a men's restroom. Anyone who's seen a women's restroom knows they're just as bad as men's.

@Devlyn
Dear Devlyn:
I agree with you.   
I knew this well before I transitioned when I was in college.   
I had a night job at the local hospital as a janitor.  I had previously thought, perhaps like most men, that the Women's Rest Rooms would be cleaner with no pee on the floor and stuff like that.....

.... BUT when I had the nightly task of cleaning the Women's room, my eyes were opened.... 
...at times I would find "used" tampons on the floor, toilet plugged up, human waste on the toilet seats and on the wall (how would that happen anyway?) 
Even the nurses restrooms in the staff lounge were an awful mess.   
Some people, men or women, can be absolute slobs.

Just saying!!!  Revealing secrets from a former janitor.
Danielle

[AnneK]

I'm laughing at the comments about anyone who's seen a men's restroom.

I was in one recently, where I wondered if I'd be better off not washing my hands before I left. 

[valerie anne]

With all restrooms, however well you have washed your hands, you always then grab the handle on the door.

There should be another wash basin outside of the door!
 

[GordonG]

I have to speak up about the cleanliness of public restrooms. Far away and long ago, I once was a janitor for a small JCPenney store. I would clean the whole store floors, empty garbage cans and also clean the restrooms. I remember being somewhat shocked as how dirty the womens was in general compared to the mens.

Now I have to say that I grew up adoring women. I held them is high esteem. I was taught that they were superior to men by my dad; and hence just better all around people. Surely all the females in my family of grand parents, aunts and uncles etc bore that out.

So my experience in cleaning public restrooms was a shock. One particular day I went into the womens and smelled it before I saw it. There in the corner where the tiled walls and tiled floor met was a pile of s__t!  ARG! Yes, I cleaned it up, and probably used a whole can of Lysol on the area.

[GordonG]

With all restrooms, however well you have washed your hands, you always then grab the handle on the door.

There should be another wash basin outside of the door!

I use a paper towel to open the door and either hold it open with your shoe and try to throw it back into the receptacle. Or find somewhere outside the restroom to throw it. I can't tell you how many times I've sat in a stall all alone, heard someone come in and use the facility and then they walk out without washing their hands.

[Jin]

I always have to sit when in panty hose, or rompers. But often will stand if I really have to go bad,k or the floor is icky. I was in the Men's one day with my skirt pulled up and my panties pulled down when a new guy walked in. Saw me, gasped, and went back out to check the sign on the door. Then came back in and stood next to me saying "Whatever..."

[michele4848]

I sit whenever I can. I hate the equipment I was born with down there. and I wipe when done just as any lady does.

[MissKatie]

always sit which is one of the reasons I rarely go out to a bar as they have rows and rows of urinals which I won't ever use