Oh and I should add this because maybe some will feel encouraged: I teach sixth grade science and the little boys apparently have no problem with choosing the color pink as their favorite, and the other kids don't seem to have much problem with it either. It's a very, very small thing, but I don't think this occurred when I was their age.
Also- when the guidance counselors had an LGBT event, they were expecting very little support, and apparently got swarmed by kids, and ran out of rainbow stickers. Hopefully it was for more than just the heart shaped rainbow stickers.
The kids also responded wonderfully to my explanation of what it meant to be intersex, and expressed legitimate interest in transgender topics (i.e., what is that all about?)
So while some places may be choking on their old fashioned hangups, some progress is being made, even if it is small.