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The Dangers of False Inclusivity On Transgender Dating Sites

Started by imjustme, October 15, 2018, 03:35:48 PM

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Interesting article put out by TGD about how the big dating sites are trying to be trans inclusive but still have derogatory terms which attract dangerous ->-bleeped-<-s.

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Sonja

not having a go at the OP, but having just read the article the title seems misleading.
The problem as they point out is simply a lack of options on mainstream sites and the use of perceived derogatory language.  The actual dangers seems to be a lack of communication before hand  -because people don't read profiles properly - maybe just mention your trans in the chat before the date....
Also as per the article why would you ever let someone walk away from a date without paying their half?? I would be furiously shouting out to the staff that they have to pay! No way would I ever pay for someone else on a first date!

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Ms. Bee

Today for the first time created a profile on Plenty of Fish. I like the idea of selecting "female" as my gender (no trans option). But I place I am a trans-woman in transition on my profile along with a picture. I express I am  interested in guys for coffee or a movie.

Today I got several messages from local guys. It was fun reading them all then replying to most of them. But I came to the conclusion there we two type of guys.

Guy #1 - Hit me up with sexual innuendos, or asking where I live, if can I be discreet etc.
Guy #2 - Offered to do coffee, a movie, or both. Those with decent looking profiles I sent them a reply back expressing that "I am a transwoman btw". Guy #2 sent a messsage back apologizing for wasting my time or didn't reply back at all.

Today was day one. I am sort of addicted to it. So I am sure I will be logged in tonight and most of day tomorrow.
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Quote from: imjustme on October 15, 2018, 03:35:48 PM
Interesting article put out by TGD about how the big dating sites are trying to be trans inclusive but still have derogatory terms which attract dangerous ->-bleeped-<-s.


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Quote from: imjustme on October 15, 2018, 03:35:48 PM
Interesting article put out by TGD about how the big dating sites are trying to be trans inclusive but still have derogatory terms which attract dangerous ->-bleeped-<-s.



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I've tried several LGBT dating sites. The vibe doesn't impress me. Its mostly people wanting short term or 'discrete' encounters. These I have zero interest in. Some men are just bizarre "what would it take to get you into bed with me?" Not that! From the three sites and apps I've investigated none have impressed me as more than a meat market.

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There is not a chance that I would ever designate myself under that label, from what I have observed people associate it with sex worker. Put a designator of escort or adult film star instead of woman and see how that explodes in their faces. I want to say more, I really, really do but I have reached the end of any kind of civility I had on the subject. The chance that not one but two sites, unless controlled by the same person or group and even then the chances are low, is that woefully ignorant is almost nonexistent. Ahhh, okay I am done. One last thing, best case scenario, a transgender person expecting love from a site that knows so little or care so little is like a man going to a gynecologist to help them with their undescended testicle.

I have not had a problem with dating sites that only have male or female designators though it would not fit the non-binary I expect. Something better can be done. There are all kinds out there and we have to sift through them as anyone else would. I met my boyfriend on a dating site but it didn't happen right away there were at least a hundred men to put through the vetting process before I found him. For me clarity of who I am, being sure that they knew everything, made the whole thing similar to what my girlfriends have gone through using dating sites, good and bad. I don't think that I would do it again if I found myself single but not because of the process or the sites that I used, there are just too many men and women, if I were inclined that way, that are looking for someone and express interest. In a way that might be scarier because I would see their reaction when I told them I was trans, but they will have seen the real me before anything else.

Never had a guy dump the check on me, that is pretty crappy.
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