Quote from: kellb on October 14, 2018, 07:16:18 AM
I'm very happy to report an active and enjoyable sex-life with my fiance.
Nice!
Quote from: kellb on October 14, 2018, 07:16:18 AM
. . . However, we have found little guidance on what is required post intercourse. We have been working on the basis of "treat it like a dilation" and been douching three times with drinking water, but this rather breaks the mood when you'd just rather cuddle.
Does anyone know definitively what is required/recommended/necessary? Is waiting 30 mins before douching likely to lead to any trouble?
For a "definitively" answer, maybe you should ask Suporn.
But here's my take (based on my experience as an enthusiastic sexual amateur): I'm guessing that after a year in, you are well-healed from surgery. If that's right, I can't imagine that there would be a problem vaginally with postponing douching for 30 minutes or even until you get up the following morning for that matter. That afterglow in bed after the sex is one of the best parts of the whole thing. It would be a shame to miss out on it.
One other thing to keep in mind, though! Cis-females will tell you it's a good idea to get up and urinate before you fall asleep to reduce the chance of bladder infections. Good, vigorous intercourse introduces bacteria into the vulvar region. Cis-women have a much shorter and more direct urinary tract leading back to the bladder than guys do, and the reconfigured urinary tract of a post-op trans woman shares this feature.
The short distance from the vulva back to the bladder makes it all too easy for bacteria to work their way back up to the bladder in a few hours and maybe touch off a troublesome and painful bladder infection. So urinating BEFORE you fall asleep after sex flushes the bacteria back down out of your urethra and helps to protect you from infection. And it only takes a minute, as opposed to douching, which takes longer and requires some equipment.
