Quote from: Gabrielle66 on October 16, 2018, 02:08:06 PM
I am looking for some advice about how to try to alter some of my very masculine mannerisms. I have three things that I struggle with the most. They are the caveman slump when I eat. I can't seem to stop leaning in and eating while slumped forward. This one is by far the hardest one to alter. I have definitely notices that women almost exclusively sit up straight and bring food to themselves with a fork or whatever is appropriate. They don't slouch forward to take each bite. Anything you can suggest, I'd be willing to try. Second, thing is looking down when I walk. Why this one is so difficult I don't know. I am getting better about thinking about this when I walk around but again, any suggestions would be welcome. The last things is keeping my hands out of my pockets. This one just seems so natural I don't even realize that I'm doing it most of the time. What have you all tried to keep your hands out of your pockets? Of course, if I were wearing something with no pockets that would simplify things but for now I am still guy mode with dress pants and jeans more often than not. Thanks in advance for any suggestions you might have to offer. Love and faith.
Gabrielle
@Gabrielle66 Dear Gabrielle:You have done a good job in your post comments describing clearly about some of the things that you need to improve upon.
>Slumping forward when eating
>Looking down when walking
>Hands in pockets (note:
@JannaLM had a good suggestion when wearing sweatshirts.)
Obviously you have been thinking about this a lot, and more than likely you have done quite a bit of people watching to see for yourself how women's mannerisms differ from men's ...
...be aware that there are a lot more things that women do differently than men,
>like how they walk with their legs more together,
>eating in smaller mouthfuls,
>talking with their hands,
>more expressive facial expressions,
>sitting with legs together or crossed and not spread apart,
etc, etc.... so many more to consider.... more people watching should be in your plans I would think.
The solutions are obvious but requires your focus and determination to make the neccessary corrections. These things play a big part in being gendered correctly and passing reliably. Of course, appearance, hair, clothing, shoes, handbag/purse, makeup and cosmetic enhancements, eyebrow trimming and shaping, reducing or eliminating body and face hair, fingernail and toenail appearance and polishing perhaps, if you wear eyeglasses switch to a feminine frame, jewellery including rings, necklaces and pierced earrings, and don't forget about a more a feminine appearing wristwatch and iPhone case.... and much, much more.... again, more people watching may be helpful.
Thank you for posting and sharing your thoughts.
Hugs,
Danielle
