As a mtf, B4 going full-time,has anyone ever asked you if you are a trans-woman?

[ChrissyRyan]

If you are mtf, and before going full-time, has anyone ever asked you if you are a trans-woman, or if you "want to become a woman"?  (Other than a professional associated with your transition, such as a gender therapist or a medical professional.)

What did you say?  Did you answer truthfully (yes) or did you decide to not disclose to that particular person at that particular time your true mtf status?

Chrissy

[Kirsteneklund7]

If you are mtf, and before going full-time, has anyone ever asked you if you are a trans-woman, or if you "want to become a woman"?  (Other than a professional associated with your transition, such as a gender therapist or a medical professional.)

What did you say?  Did you answer truthfully (yes) or did you decide to not disclose to that particular person at that particular time your true mtf status?

Chrissy

At work an observant female colleague noticed I had tinted eyebrows & eyelashes, breasts and some redness from facial hair removal.
She asked what was going on.

  I said I dress as a woman in my spare time.

She said do you prefer men?

I said no I prefer women.

She asked if I wanted to be a woman.

I said yes.

She asked me my name.

I said Kirsten.

She said it was a pretty name.

I said thank you.

I was literally shaking as I said all this.

And that was that. I was out to her.

Kirsten x.

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[soyunachica]

Before coming out I was asked several times if I was gay and a few if I was trans once or twice. I only half lied about the gay part, the trans part lied right threw my teeth and regretted it years onward. Although I slowly would pick up on what made me seem "gay" or effeminate, and attempted to completely erase it from my gestures and mannerisms, and was rarely asked after turning 18.

Dropping hints and talking about LGBT in a really natural way with people who are visible and proud may out me as something... eventually. My gestures are slowly returning to their natural state too. (Context: I'm currently going through a job training that focuses on practicing pulling authentic sharing out of clients)

[GingerVicki]

Yes. I've also been accused of being FtM.

[Allison S]

Before hrt? I've been asked what my gender identity is.  I was leaning towards more androgynous appearance, but testosterone isn't easy to work with.. At least it wasn't for me.

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[KathyLauren]

No.  I was trying very hard to pass as male, and, after a few decades of practise, I was pretty good at it.  I had 'em all fooled! 

The only pre-transition sign that something was up was when I shaved off my beard.  I got a few surprised looks, but no one thought anything of it.

[Arianna Valentine]

If you are mtf, and before going full-time, has anyone ever asked you if you are a trans-woman, or if you "want to become a woman"?  (Other than a professional associated with your transition, such as a gender therapist or a medical professional.)

What did you say?  Did you answer truthfully (yes) or did you decide to not disclose to that particular person at that particular time your true mtf status?

Chrissy

The only time before I started transitioning I was asked if I was a woman was over the phone and I wasn't as I was called a woman several times oh and at the drive-through microphone thingy

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[MollyPants]

My partner asked me if I wanted to he a girl when I first showed her one of my dresses. Usually people state 'you are a woman' based on my mannerisms.

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[soyunachica]

The only time before I started transitioning I was asked if I was a woman was over the phone and I wasn't as I was called a woman several times oh and at the drive-through microphone thingy

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Before I even started voice training in earnest, people have always mammed me over the phone. According to Chrystella my natural speaking voice started off just barely in the male range pitch-wise, and I don't get read as anything but male in person.

But over the phone, I've always liked being ma'amed, even if the occasional sweetie and honey from older men is a little weird. To the extent that my Mom hands me the phone to pay the bills and call on her behalf while she works on other ones.

When I do say my male name (when I have to), sometimes they do switch to masculine pronouns, although about half the time they pause awkwardly and keep saying "tell your son .......". I'm wondering now if the ones that hear my blessed phone voice and a dude name suspect I'm trans or something these days.

[ChrissyRyan]

I answered truthfully.  Probably should have been not so forthcoming with that first person.

I was more careful in the future with such questions.  I used better judgment.  Better results.

Or perhaps that first person just could not keep that shared revelation to herself. 

Chrissy