Hi I’m Heather

[Heathertj1975#]

Hi my name is Heather. I am a crossdresser from the upper midwest. At the early age of 19 I knew I wan't as manly as most men. I didn't give too much thought  until I was asked out on a date by a transgender woman. The date never happened because of issues beyond either of our controls. About 8 years ago I stated having feelings about cross dressing and how that date may have changed my life if it had happened. It started with some undergarments and until yesterday I thought it may just be a fetish. I have purged a couple of times and have felt ashamed after dressing up.

I am not sure what happened yesterday. It felt like a womanly river ran over me. I hadn't been able to dress at all for nine months because my wife was at home without a job. She went back to work this week and I was finally able to put on a nice sundress for a little bit. I now can't stop think about my feminine side and don't think it is was a fetish. The last nine months I have been looking at outfits and dresses on Pinterest. As I look back there were signs that I didn't think about until now. For example; when I was younger one of my favorite movies was Sabrina (1995 version). I always thought of myself as Sabina rather than any of the male characters.

I think some small changes are going to be coming to my life; learning to do makeup, purchasing some dresses and shoes. I may want to talk to a therapist about these feelings.

I am thankful for this site and look forward to learning from all of you.

[Lori Dee]

Hello Heather,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

Thank you for joining the forum and for that wonderful introduction.

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I would definitely check into getting a therapist or psychologist with experience in gender identities. It doesn't mean something is wrong, but it can help you better understand the feelings you have. They can help you figure out if you have these feelings because you are transgender, or maybe you just enjoy cross-dressing. It is always a good thing to explore ourselves and learn more about what makes us tick. When we know ourselves well, it makes it easier to explain who we are to others.  It sounds like you are keeping a positive attitude and that is a good thing.

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[ChrissyRyan]

Hi!


Welcome Heather!


Chrissy

[Sarah B]

Hi Heather

My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

Thank you for sharing your story.  It's wonderful to have you here and I really hope you find the support and encouragement you are looking for as you delve into your feelings.

A lot of us began in similar ways, experimenting with underwear and dressing when we could.  I never saw anything wrong with what I did, it just felt right and it was not a fetish to me.  What you are feeling is absolutely valid.  There is nothing wrong with those thoughts and if it feels right, it's definitely worth exploring.

I think it's great that you are considering talking to a therapist.  Whether it's a psychologist, psychiatrist, or counsellor, it's essential to find someone who understands gender identity issues and adheres to informed consent.  A skilled professional can help you navigate these feelings in a way that respects your experiences and supports your journey.

I also enjoyed watching "Sabrina." I watched it after I changed my life around, I believe and I found connections with more than just one female character in my past.  Sometimes, it's later on that we realize how many films, tv shows and moments have impacted us.

It seems like you are ready to take some steps, whether that is learning to do makeup, shopping for dresses, or embracing your feminine side more openly.  No matter where this journey takes you, remember that you are not alone.  This community is here to support you.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you shared a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads.  I'm always interested in learning something new about new members

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely discuss problems or issues similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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@Heathertj1975#

[Paulie]

Hi Heather,

Welcome to Susan's

Paulie.

[tgirlamg]

Welcome Aboard Heather!

Hugs!

Ashley 💕

[TanyaG]

About 8 years ago I stated having feelings about cross dressing and how that date may have changed my life if it had happened. It started with some undergarments and until yesterday I thought it may just be a fetish. I have purged a couple of times and have felt ashamed after dressing up.

Hi Heather and welcome,

You are not alone, so many of us have been down this route, it's like deja vu now every time someone else checks in :-) Your experience has become normal for us, so while it's new to you, everyone here, of any gender, has similar stories to share. Although I have neglected it, I've blogged about my journey here, so you can see how similar our paths have been, but I'm just one example.

If you are feeling your way into cross-dressing, I've written a bunch of pieces in the 'how-tos' section here to help get you off to the best possible start now you've begun your journey. Do read my blog, which is mostly a collection of examples of errors its a good idea not to make and a few things that worked really well, but also some indepth explanations of why we experience some of the feelings we do.

But most of all, be happy and be yourself.