How long can an MtF reasonably keep passing as a male?

[NancyDrew1930]

Hi Sarah,

I haven't gone out fully dressed as a woman because right now I am in a conservative area and a number of family members are extremely conservative, also I am in a very conservative college program right now.  I am pushing the boundaries with what I wear in my hair (or even how long it is), and a few other things, so while some are wondering, I still have to be careful.  At least I am on HRT, so my body will not masculinize anymore. 

I had tried coming out to my family twenty years ago but it was a disaster, so this time I am trying to go easier and make it look more natural. 

Hi Nancy

I noticed the following quoted passages and are listed in order of time, the first one:

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The question you should be asking yourself is this; "I wonder if I went out completely as Nancy", I would not be surprised if you were successful presenting as a female.

It's good to hear that things are going well for you.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
@NancyDrew1930 

[Sarah B]

Hi Nancy

Thank you for your reply.  It's disheartening that you live in an area that is 'conservative'.  I understand that you are taking things steady given the situation you are in and your safety is paramount.

When I read your reply, I immediately thought, that maybe you could go away for a weekend and be yourself!  As they say "there are more than one way to skin a cat".  It's also good to hear that at least you are on hormones and they will not masculinize you anymore.

Yes be careful in what you do.  However, since you are around family and friends they will not notice the subtle changes that are occurring to you.  Some of those changes could be increasing your HRT dosage, continue to grow your hair and just wear it as a straight pony tail or plait and work on your facial hair.

If they ask you questions or remark that something is different about you.  Then think of a plausible excuse, for example, I like long hair.

Something that may be of help.  I just wrote a reply to another member called 'anonymous24'.  The actual thread is called "A question regarding transition", one of my replies can be read by clicking this link:  My Reply.

All the best, take care and I hope everything goes well for you.  Oh one question, what are you studying at college?

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
@NancyDrew1930