So, a little short history here for context.
I am out to a lot of people for 5 years now. I have gotten close to transition only about a month from my appointment, when my wife and I realized we needed to make more money. My FIL (who is not supportive but would do anything to help his daughter) got me in his union. This stalled my transition.
He was supposed to retire by the time I was finished with my apprenticeship, and I planned to begin my transition shortly after I graduated the program.
Now, it seems he will have another ten years to go. I told my wife a few months ago that I would not be able to wait that long. (Upon hearing the possibility of that news, I had almost gone suicidal). My wife just recently had a bachelorette party for her sister, and there was tarot card reader. My wife asked her if she had made the right choice to stay with me. She wasn't given an answer, but it sparked a long conversation about me. That led to my MIL asking when I thought I was going to transition, and that if I did it while my FIL was still in the union, I would never be allowed to see them again.
I really cant wait 10 years. My boys will both be teenagers at that point (15 and 12), and I won't wait longer than that until they leave the house.
My wife has begun wondering if we are just postponing the inevitable divorce. We enjoy each other, have a great sex life, have all similar interests, and she supports me. We haven't told the kids yet. Thanksgiving at the in-laws was normal and fun. Given everything, however, I've begun preparing for the day that I will be shut out from their lives. Am i wrong to do this? I act normal and fun around them now, but I know the day will come.
