In a way, this irritates me. Implying that there is any difference other than my chromosomes between myself and a biological male is not only pointless but hurts my feelings quite a bit. I am no different than any other man - except the state of my body. I'm not easier to date or get along with. In fact, I'm a more difficult person. I'm just as bull-headed and gruff and threatening as a bio-male. I'm just shorter with less upper body strength.
I find that a lot of women, cisgendered and otherwise, have this idea about transmen - that they are gentler, more sensitive, more feminine than bio-men. This idea that a woman can still have a man who is just a bit more like a woman seems to be very popular but it's not actually based on anything, in my experience. I don't relate to women at all. I don't understand how they feel or why they feel that way. I'm not more considerate, less willing to hurt someone, more giving. I'm rude, crude, angry and think I'm in charge, just like all the male stereotypes that float around and the sad thing is that I have to play those qualities up a great deal just for people to get the picture. I'm a manly man in a woman's body.
Sorry, but I am offended.
As to the original topic, however, I'm uplifted to hear that there are productive, positive groups out there for transmen.
