Hi Darlene, Sorry to hear about your divorce - many people tend to hurt others when they are hurting. That doesn't make it OK but understandable where the mean attitude is coming from.
Regarding your Mom I love having a supportive Mom. She is 79 and doing well mentally. Physically eh, so so but no major problems.
She has been very supportive and now claims she wishes I had told her years ago. LOL yeah right. In the 1970's I am positive I would have been at the psychiatrist to try and 'fix' me.
But now it's great - I am one of two children and he is a brother. Kind of obvious by the use of 'he'.

She seems to really like having a daughter and is always giving me hair and fashion advice and like most mothers it is not always complimentary. Oh - you should do this with your hair - or - don't sit like that. Too funny.
Life is always a mix. I am sad for your struggles and happy for your advances.