Day By Day

[Darlene]

Hi folks...
  Well the process of divorce has began. The papers are filed. Lawyers hired... It's a nightmare really... The woman I loved has become so angry & mean.
I'm so sad about all this. I've yearned for this my whole life. It doesn't make sense to me how hateful she's become. Saying the most horrible things.
Dang! Didn't we love each other? My mother ( Who knows the situation ) Says No.... Honey she didn't...
Not even sure why I'm posting this to be honest. JUst trying to get it out of my head I guess.
Just one day at a time... that's all I'm trying to do.

[Arianna Valentine]

I think honestly the most that any of us can do who are transitioning is to be honest and be happy with ourselves we can't always make everybody else happy but as long as we make ourselves happy that's all that matters and I am sorry about the divorce I already went through it wasn't that bad because I couldn't stand her anyways but that's me

If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

[Darlene]

The problem I have... I love her more than anything. I was so hopeful that she would understand

[Arianna Valentine]

I can completely understand that... unfortunately so many people were raised so close-minded that it's impossible for them to understand and comprehend what we are going through and to them it's wrong for some reason

If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

[GingerVicki]

Once the divorce is underway, for your own best interests the gloves must come off. I usually would not say to listen to your mother, but you need to.

I was served September 29, 2014, and we are still fighting. It is because she does not want to deal with me what-so-ever. Just yesterday I spent 6 hours working with my lawyer because of things that needed taking care of back in May. I don't need to say that it is almost December of 2018!

I could be in court even more, but I am just taking some losses and moving on.

Love does not apply when a divorce is filed.

[Darlene]

I agree... I practicely begged her. I tried to explain that this would go past the place of no return. Well it has. There's nothing I can do. My lawyer will handle it from here on out.

[Arianna Valentine]

I agree... I practicely begged her. I tried to explain that this would go past the place of no return. Well it has. There's nothing I can do. My lawyer will handle it from here on out.

You do have my deepest sympathies about the horrible things that are going on with with you I do hope that you can find happiness with somebody else and once you fully transition or even start transitioning maybe one day you'll find somebody that accept you for who you are... Good luck

If you can't accept yourself,  how can you expect others to accept you?

[GingerVicki]

I agree... I practically begged her. I tried to explain that this would go past the place of no return. Well, it has. There's nothing I can do. My lawyer will handle it from here on out.

That is the perfect way to do it. Advocate for yourself!
I will add that I am much happier and better off now.

[Maria2018]

It's horrible when someone that you love(d) and thought loved you turns on you like that. I'm going through similar at the moment. When we split we tried to keep things amicable, but then she completely stabbed me in the back and left me no choice but to go the legal route. And ever since that, when I finally stood up to her, she's just become this angry, bitter, hurtful person towards me.
If she is being so awful, perhaps it's best if like you say, your lawyer deals with her so you don't have to! By this point I wish I was able to do that, but as we share custody of our child, unfortunately I still have to deal with her fairly regularly. Good advice about the gloves coming off - if she's like my ex, if you give an inch she'll take a yard. It's so hard, but like GingerVicki said: "love does not apply in a divorce".
Hoping that somehow tomorrow seems a little brighter for you.

Hugs,
Maria

[Darlene]

Sad that it comes to this.... Sure wish it was different