Hit and run compliment -- creepy?

[Genevieve Swann]

I have to laugh at what Cindy had to say. "Just another pervert" Not to worry, merely another pervert.

[Starr]

process it through or despite all the inferiority complexes I may have built up in my life.

I can be susceptible to the same thing because of my own complexes about my looks. I'm not saying our complexes are equal, but I can relate. I remember a couple times in college having random groups of guys "bark" at me. It's always made me insecure no matter how many more people have said the opposite of me. It also comes down to a point where I don't believe it if someone says I am attractive because I think they're just being nice. The only person who says it that I believe is you. And that's the only opinion that matters to me.


I respectfully disagree with those who think his behavior was anything but completely inappropriate and creepy. He said "that style" looked good on her. Not "that dress," which makes it more about her body than the actual clothing. And he wasn't just standing in line waiting to make a purchase and just happened to notice. He made it a point to do nothing other than come up to her to say it. If he was buying something and happened to say, "Oh, that's a pretty dress," I would say it could have been innocent. A normal male stranger wouldn't have dared approach a woman in such a manner, at least not around here. People don't even talk to strangers in line like I've seen in other areas of the country, except occasionally for women speaking to other women. It's just not done here.

[tekla]

People don't even talk to strangers in line like I've seen in other areas of the country

That's kinda creepy.  I've been all over and it seems that people will talk to you just about everywhere.  I guess I hang with a bad crowd.  Those Macy's and cocktail lounge people.

[Starr]

That's kinda creepy.  I've been all over and it seems that people will talk to you just about everywhere.  I guess I hang with a bad crowd.  Those Macy's and cocktail lounge people.

Oh, no. There's nothing wrong with your crowd at all. It's just the snooty, self-absorbed people around here. 

[NicholeW.]

I'm not certain that where I live the difference between "that dress' and "that style" would so effectively differentiate between "pervert" and "normal."

And yeah, I find myself being talked to by strangers constantly in lines and such. Personally I think most of us are so very isolated and alone anyhow that we find society where we can: in the checkout at Wal-mart and Target.

There may be some illness in that, but i don't think it's perverted. I think we strive for connection with other human beings.

Some do it in one way, others in another, but I think for the most part the attempts are well-meaning, sincere and kinda hopeful in some respects. After all, we have so often decided that any approach from another is going to be perverse, harmful, threatening? That seems sicker than what that man may have probably had in mind.

Nichole

[tekla]

I only talk to other people so they think I'm not talking to myself, which I do.  But people used to think I was crazy, so I got this cell phone earpiece, and now they just think I'm crazy popular being on the phone talking with people all the time and all.

[Mister]

As for not being a lifelong? Yeah, I kinda got that about you anyhow, Mister. You read as if you immigrated there.

Hardly anyone is.  I emigrated from a city that is just about as similar to SF as it gets.

[Starr]

Nicole, I'm sorry but I'm not quite sure I follow you. Above you were saying that you realize Northern Virginia is a completely different area, but then it seems like you're saying that it's like other places. I think I misunderstood something somewhere. I didn't mean anything against nice people living in other places who are just trying to relate to others.

This truly is the most unfriendly area I've ever been in. I've met people who come from other areas who often remark about it. To be fair, I think it's more about people simply being too busy and wrapped up in their own thoughts than anything else, but it really is rare to have strangers speak to you around here. Especially that this was a "hit and run" and he said the style "looked good on [her]."

[Mister]

dude was looking for a bathroom BJ at target.

Old tekla is thinking she ought to get out more.

But Polk and Turk, where Polk goes up from the 'Loin?  In like one of the worst areas in the United States? I mean this was prime drag territory since the fifties when Compton's Cafeteria was on Turk and Taylor, past where the Black Rose sat for years right off Turk, or up Polk to Diva's today.  And yes, this is the neighborhood where people have sex in bathrooms - its considered a classy move up from just doing it in the alley (which I've seen) or on the hood of a parked car (which I've also seen in the 'Loin.)

But that's not exactly where they build Target stores either.  Not the Target Market to coin a phrase.

Yes, that polk & turk.  It's not where I hang out, it's on the way to my office.  As for bathroom sex, it's not a TL-only activity.  I've seen it across the continent, so I'm not sure why you're trying to pin it on this locale.