My wife was mad as hell when I came out to her. I knew she was unhappy, but I simply did not giver her a choice. I never even told her when I started HRT because I knew she would be upset. I did what I needed to do, and on the rare occasions when she was receptive I provided updates. For the most part I left her alone, I nudged her at times but didn't push too hard. We slept in separate rooms quite often. After about 18 months, including several visits with a therapist, my wife finally began accepting this change. After a few more months she realized that I am now a much better person then the one I used to be. She is still getting used to it, but now she even supports my decision for GCS.
From your post it seems that hiding no longer works, which leaves very few options. I know some people may be content with presenting as their preferred gender on weekends, or outside of work. Of course there are others who know their only option is to go full-time. You are the only person who can answer that question. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
