Coming out at work

[JaslineUK]

I'm just starting the journey and hoping to go all the way from CD in the closet to hormone therapy. The first step is to get out of the closet. A while back the idea of going out into public terrified me, but have come around to actually liking the idea. I'm planning on doing this in the New Year once the kids are all out of the way and back home. I don't think they are quite ready for me as a woman yet, but that time will come.

However, the step after that and really troubles me is how I come out at work. I'm thinking I will do small subtle changes. Probably starting with some tops and blouses which are not overly feminine. Also some women's boots, which will be easy as I already wear heeled men's boots.

I would be interested in anyone else who has come out at work and how they did it. Basically I'm looking to plagiarise some ideas   

thanks
Jasline

[sally0196]

Jasline,

It sounds like exciting times are ahead for you and I wish you all the best.  I'm not out at work, so I can't really provide you with any insights, but I'm thinking you might get a better response if you post your question on the transgender board.  While I'm not out at work, I am quite a social crossdresser and spend a fair amount of time out in public.  You might find it a little scary at first, but expressing the feminine part of your personality is rewarding and extremely fulfilling.

Hugs,

Sally

[Jessica_Rose]

When I came out at work I did it all at once.

The first time I ever presented as female in public was 25 Jan 2018, and that was to pick up my 'gender marker change' form from my doctor. I went to the courthouse twice as Jessica for my legal name change, which was completed on 5 February. I got my new drivers license on 6 February. After coordinating with my manager and HR we set up a team meeting for Friday, 16 February. At the end of the meeting I made this announcement:

"Today is my last day at Progressive. Although I will be back next week, the person you see before you will never return. Over forty years of my life have been spent trying to hide the most beautiful part of myself because I was afraid of rejection, but now it is time to free my soul from darkness and allow her into the light, and she will never go into hiding again. I am Jessica Rose."

I went back to my desk and sent an email titled 'I bet you never saw this coming' to 65 friends and co-workers, then I left the building. On Saturday I went to Merle Norman Cosmetics, got my ears pierced, and learned some basic make-up. On Monday, 19 February, Jessica went to work. I received lots of support, and not one negative comment. I even made several new friends. And indeed, no one saw it coming.

[debrahelen]

Jasline,
   It's wonderful that you are taking this important (for you) step.  I wish you every success.  I don't think I have the nerve yet to come out at work, but perhaps one day!  For now, it's shopping and travel that works for me.  I would be curious about how my work colleagues would react!!
Deb