Hello everyone.

[Datgurl]

Hello, I'm not to sure what to write, eigther way... hello I am from Australia and i am transgender mtf since coming out to my fiance 6months ago and my family 3 weeks ago everything has been awesome my fionce/parents/siblings accept me but my old habits are dieing hard, years of alcohol abuse are rely affecting me... like habit I want to stop, I dont drink every day not even every week but when I do I drink till I pass out, just how I coped previously, can anyone please give guidance?? I rely want to stop, I'm not addicted I dont need it but when I start I cant stop,
Btw hello you beautiful ladies.

[Maid Marion]

Welcome!

Sorry to hear of your alcohol problems.  I know someone who can't drink any, as he can't stop when he does, so he sticks to non alcoholic beverages, even when going to bars.  They just want your money, and have alternate beverages available.

[Datgurl]

Hello and honistly thank you for your reply,
I dont exactly see myself as a problem, but I'm trying to find a sulution, maybe to have like 1 or 2 drinks and be happy, however I've never been that way inclined I've only know excess drinking I rely want to just tone down...

But I rely do value any input your willing to offer

And thank you x

[Jessica]

Hi Datgurl 🙋‍♀️ Welcome to Susan's Place!  I'm Jessica.
Sometimes turning to something that changes our mood can become a problem if you don't address why you need a mood change.  Once starting HRT some have found the relief they've been trying to gain from mood changers like alcohol.

I see you're new here, so I'll post some links that may help you get better acquainted with the site. Pay attention to the site rules they can be of great help and don't forget the link highlighted red.  It has answers to questions that are commonly asked.  Then join in on a topic you find interesting and learn and share.

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[Northern Star Girl]

Hello, I'm not to sure what to write, eigther way... hello I am from Australia and i am transgender mtf since coming out to my fiance 6months ago and my family 3 weeks ago everything has been awesome my fionce/parents/siblings accept me but my old habits are dieing hard, years of alcohol abuse are rely affecting me... like habit I want to stop, I dont drink every day not even every week but when I do I drink till I pass out, just how I coped previously, can anyone please give guidance?? I rely want to stop, I'm not addicted I dont need it but when I start I cant stop,
Btw hello you beautiful ladies.

@Datgurl 
Dear Datgurl:
    Greetings... I really like your member name!!!
    I am happy to see that you signed up as a member of Susan's Place and that you have now posted in the Forums.  We have many Australians here on the Forums, in time you will be able to find them or perhaps they will find you first.

    As you post here you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you mentioned in your Introduction.

    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.

    I see that our lovely member and California Girl   @Jessica  has already Officially Welcomed you,
but please allow me to also warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place. 
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you should be aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
   
    There is information and important LINKS that  Jessica included below her Welcome Message to you.   You will find information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.   
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

[V M]

Hi Datgurl 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

[Datgurl]

Thank you all so much for the warm welcome =)

[Susan R]

Hello Datgurl, nice to meet you.  It's wonderful that your "coming out" to everyone is going better than expected.  I've had some similar responses to my recent coming out experiences though I've not had too many so far.  I hope you find what you need in regards to your drinking.  It sounds as though you are looking for change in that area of your life.  Only you can do that but a strong support system is very helpful.  Old habits are hard to change.  As Jessica mentioned, HRT can sometimes relieve some of the gender dysphoria which could be an underlying factor to the drinking pattern you said you're looking to change.  I hope you reach out and find some support.  It's very difficult to beat alone.

Best Wishes,
Susan R🌷

[LizK]

Hello, I'm not to sure what to write, eigther way... hello I am from Australia and i am transgender mtf since coming out to my fiance 6months ago and my family 3 weeks ago everything has been awesome my fionce/parents/siblings accept me but my old habits are dieing hard, years of alcohol abuse are rely affecting me... like habit I want to stop, I dont drink every day not even every week but when I do I drink till I pass out, just how I coped previously, can anyone please give guidance?? I rely want to stop, I'm not addicted I dont need it but when I start I cant stop,
Btw hello you beautiful ladies.

Hi Datgurl

I am an Adelaide girl so yay another Aussie...we need to get some balance around here...the great Aussie invasion maybe...just kidding.


I was a boozer from age 12 which is the first time I got drunk and the last time being 2000. I have been sober ever since. Half the battle is knowing you have an issue and the other half is finding the reason to stop...I ended up with a painful chronic illness because of my drinking...you have to drink a lot to do that and I certainly did. So I found my reason and even tried to come out and transition then however due to circumstances I was asked to wait so I ran away from being trans until the day I decided to either start drinking again or explore transition and the rest is history. I have never been happier and rarely even think about it except a really hot day when the ideas of having a beer sounds really nice. However I usually just have a glass of water and move on, as I said it usually just a fleeting thought.

Abstaining is my only real option now and it made a huge difference in my life...but then so did transitioning.


Take care

Liz