@Jaime320
Hey Jaime,
First I had already started to wear a few t-shirts that were femme, then at one point when my SO was away I wore a femme pair of flats and he asked "who's are those?" and I answered "they're mine" to which he said nothing. some months later I started speaking to him about it and it went something like this "so you know how some people are born boys and some are born girls? well some people are born and as they grow up they feel like theyre a bit of both or something else. like *****( a 'boy' who we know who is overtly feminine - but I don't know if they consider themselves transgender) So if I was to draw a line and say this is boys at this end and this is girls at the other end, then this (pointed to an area near the middle on the girl's side) is where I am in terms of how I feel on the inside. Do you understand? He said yes, and I asked him if he had any questions - which he did not at the time. I also said if you ever have any questions about any of this please ask me, and if your friends ever say anything about me you can talk to me about it. I don't wear dress's or makeup around him but I have sometimes worn skirts, heels, flats, and overt femme t-shirts etc.
One of the things that weighs on my mind is that I don't want him to think that I'm doing any of this to reject masculinity - and I don't want him to adopt any of this as a way to please me or gain acceptance - which young children can sometimes do. But as Karma mentioned sometimes telling a kid not to do something will give you the very opposite result.
I hope some of this may help,
Take care,
Sonja.
