So dating for me has gotten so much harder the past year since I mainly use tinder to date. I try to avoid the trans or lgbt apps mainly because I find the large majority of guys on there are ->-bleeped-<-s, and they treat girls like us like a fetish. I know while it seems there's many girls who embellish in that I personally don't and alot of us don't either.
Back from 2015 - 2017 I could simply just write that i'm trans in my profile and never get banned. Then in early 2018 the continuous string of banning began, EVEN after tinder implemented their trans inclusive gender categories. However this is tricky because:
1) transphobic users still report u if they see your profile
2) in some countries the ability to state your gender is not present upon creation of the profile. I have tested the app when using it and making new profiles in the EU countries and Australia and USA. The only way for you to be able to state your gender 100% of the time is if you log in through a PC or the website, NOT through the app
3) lastly, even if you successfully place your gender on your profile, SOME but not all users can actually view it on their app. Ive tested this too by asking guys and using the app on my other phone
What tinder has been doing as of late is they have been secretly banning transgender profiles. I think ever since that lawsuit they became more careful. Instead of outright making it clear your profile is banned, you are actually secretly disabled. This means:
1) the people you matched with will suddenly see your profile disappear
2) you can message them but they won't receive it
3) your matches per day will very quickly go down to 0
I know this because again, through extensive testing in different countries, I noticed the indicator when i get banned, as a tinder gold user where i can see who swiped me, if i swiped right it will say we matched but after that their profile does not appear on my match list any longer.
I even tested on profiles where I did not mention i'm transgender and surprise surprise, no such issue ever occurred.
Its gotten so depressing that dating just because so much less progressive for trans people. Anyone knows what happened with that lawsuit?
*side note: a part of me wants to sue them too for this. I certainly have the finances to do so but I don't want to be in a time consuming and emotionally draining lawsuit.
its just feels really disheartening lately that finding love and a partner has become even more tedious than in previous years