Not sure if this is the place to post...
Dysphoria
As sad as it may sound, wearing a pink shirt helps. Looking down seeing feminine colors, painted nails, more fitting jeans, a skirt. Helps me to feel more aligned, more me. As long, as I don't look in the mirror, use the restroom, shower, speak. I can feel bad, look down, see clothes that align, and get a slight lift. It feels cozy to see myself right, good. But it doesn't last. There's always a disconnect, and I hate myself all the more. Why couldn't I have been born right. Did my mom, or father eat something, or do something that raised the odds against me. Was it somehow my fault. Why didn't I have this information sooner. Could I have fought to transition earlier. With my mothers religious beliefs likely not, but maybe at eighteen I could've started, and ended up less of the freak I am today. I want to die, but I'm to cowardly to push the extra inch. So I cut, and I cut, and I cut. But the hurt remains. The relief is short lived. Seeing the blood pool, for some reason makes me feel better... for awhile. Sometimes only seconds. I wonder how the scars will look in the end. How many will I have. Most seem to heal, only one so far seems to have stayed. Not having more leaves me feeling like a fraud.
I can't afford surgery, but I need it with all I have. Bottom surgery, facial hair removal, feminizing face surgery, trachea shave,voice surgery, breast implants (if they don't grow properly), some type of hip increase to better match my shoulders. But I need bottom surgery the most, it would mean the least towards acceptance in public, but the most to me.
It feels like a cruel thing. A few years ago to finally learn there's treatment, and surgery for people like me. It's not just cross-dressing. Real help, Real hope, but I can't afford what I need the most. To realize it's there, but out of my reach. It hurts all the more. I am glad that some are able to get the help they need, and I know I am but one of many in my current situation. So many of us need help, so few will get it.
- Sarah Winters