Fear of misgendering

[Linde]

It's funny because after I came out I seem to notice it way more than I used to (I think I am more aware of it) Little kids have always kind of confused about my gender though.

Just watch how the other guys around you behave, and do the same.  That's how I learned to be a woman among women, just hangin out with them.
I think it is way easier to act like a guy than acting like a girl.  Guys are way less complex than females!  if you could ever act like a female, acting like a guy will be a piece of cake for you.  You just have to learn to brag how good you are, etc.  Being a guy means to be in constant competition (hidden and unwritten rules), and a fight for the position of the king of the hill!
Good luck, you can do it!

[OliverR.]

Haha, hopefully I can pull it off. I'm kind of a shy person, which makes that hard for me.

[Linde]

Haha, hopefully I can pull it off. I'm kind of a shy person, which makes that hard for me.

I started out to be shy (I don't know if you read about my background, but I was supposed to be a guy who had a mostly female looking body), but testosterone will help you to overcome this.  I succeeded, so can you.  I was not the strongest guy around, but I always had a quick mind and learned to use my mouth!
You can do it, specifically with having your husband covering your back!  Just get going!

[OliverR.]

Thanks! Yeah, it does make it a little easier since he's very supportive ofthis:)

[Kylo]

Honestly the longer I am on HRT the less I seem to care about it. I wouldn't say I cared a great deal beforehand either; what people I am probably never going to see again think or say doesn't much matter. It doesn't happen often any more.

I get tired of thinking about the whole thing. I never wanted to think about it this much and transition forced me to think and talk about it way more than my natural inclination is. I feel like I should just continue behaving as I've always done with the topic - mostly indifferent.

I suppose the reason behind fear of misgendering is fear of repercussions? I've spent my whole life being the outsider and being thought "weird" etc. so I'm not afraid of it. If anything, it makes other people more uncomfortable when they are trying to figure out gender than I will ever feel about it. Now they are the ones squirming, not me.   

[Allison S]

Yeah I don't care as much unless it's someone I know and care about. My brother and sister, well my family, still do misgender me...
Daily interactions are confusing to me because I just never know where people are coming from and their intentions...

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[Monica]

Why does our culture put us in a position, where we let people know who we think we're talking to, to begin with? I went to go buy a sandwich the other day. At subway (because they still have those here), and the person behind the counter wouldn't let up on the, "you seem like a good guy," and "yes sir," it was ruthless. I swear she called me sir 25 times in the space of ten minutes. I wanted to say something about it, but she had her hands on my food, and I was hungry.