Where do I start? I'm in my fifties and to the world, very much a 'bloke'. A nice bloke, actually. Much loved by my family, good place in my social group, not doing too bad at work, etc, ect. Life ought to be sweet...
But behind the body hair is me. If I'd been born in the internet era, I think I'd be a transitioned woman now. I really do. However, I've successfully built up a 'traditional' bloke out of the girly bits I know I've been dealt with. And there lies the issue that I guess is all too familiar. Lots of 'high blokey' lifestyle choices: army, motorbikes, outdoor pursuits, etc. Yet I found myself surrounded by women friends, being known as 'understanding and emotional', and even ended up as a primary teacher. Sigh.
I've considered myself a transvestite for long enough, and due to the eurphoria of 'quick fixes' know I've made some unfortunate links between emotional and sexual responses. But deep down, I know. The 'urge' is way beyond the quick fix that has followed me my whole life.
So, here I am. Married almost 30 years. Loyal and unable to tear my soul mates heart apart. I came out about 25 years ago, and had a few good times with me indulging my true self - but she got scared that I wanted to be a 'woman' and in the heat of moment, I lied and said I could control 'it'. Instead I buried it. And back into the closet I sat.
I'm fed up of the roller coaster I'm on, but I don't know what to do next...
I'm planning on seeking some face to face support, I did so years ago but it didn't really help. Maybe things have moved on?
In the mean time, I recently reduced my hours at work and have some time to be me once a week.
I've also started to look at herbal supplements to see if they will nudge me one way or the other - I guess a lot of us here are still on the cusp - Will I take the blue pill or the red pill?? As Morpheus might say!
Not sure what I want off this site, but reading through the threads, there is a lot of wisdom. Maybe I'll learn something about myself or make some new friends.
Look forward to hearing from you,
Jimena x
(I recently chose this name Jimena after looking at names that meant 'curious'. The urban dictionary states: "She is a very rebellious girl, doesn't follow rules, she makes her own. She will easily fall for anyone, she tries not to get attached to people, knowing that one day they will depart. Jimena Is a very loving girl she will be by your side all the time, even though she feels as if no one is by hers." So there you go!)