First time posting

[Kristianvoorhies]

Hi I'm new to this forum, so I kind of desire to transition, I've just recently come to terms with how I feel about my gender. It didn't take long for me. Only about 3 months. I've already started talking to a therapist. I'm not sure I'm transgender, I've never worn women's clothes before except for underwear, the main reason being that I live in a small town and practically everybody knows me, so everyone will notice if I suddenly start wearing women's clothes. But I've go no body dysphasia only a strong desire to transition. But I guess part of me is, ashamed of being a man. Thiats how I feel and it took,a lot of courage for me to open up. I hope my feelings are okay.

[V M]

Hi Kristian 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

How about stopping by our Introductions Forum and introducing yourself so more folks can get to know you a bit better 

Here are some links to the site rules and stuff that we offer to all new members to help them along

Things that you should read

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Hugs

V M

[Allie Jayne]

Hi I'm new to this forum, so I kind of desire to transition, I've just recently come to terms with how I feel about my gender. It didn't take long for me. Only about 3 months. I've already started talking to a therapist. I'm not sure I'm transgender, I've never worn women's clothes before except for underwear, the main reason being that I live in a small town and practically everybody knows me, so everyone will notice if I suddenly start wearing women's clothes. But I've go no body dysphasia only a strong desire to transition. But I guess part of me is, ashamed of being a man. Thiats how I feel and it took,a lot of courage for me to open up. I hope my feelings are okay.

Hi Kristianvoorhies, and welcome to the Forum! There are no set criteria for transition, we do it or not, for a whole range of different reasons. Work with your therapist to find the cause(s) of your desire and assess what is the right path for you. Don't be afraid to ask for opinions on this forum, as there are really good therapists and some not so good, and you may need to try a different therapist if it is not working out for you. Learn lots and find a better you!

Allie

[Northern Star Girl]

@Kristianvoorhies   
Dear Kristian
     I am so very glad that you have become a member here and that you have started posting in the Forums.
     
    As you continue to post on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you are.   I expect that you will be getting many members offering their thoughts and suggestions as you continue to post here. 
   
     For sure this is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation and as you continue to feel free to share with all of us.

     I see that our lovely member @V M  has already given you a big WELCOME ... but please allow me to also warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place. 
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you are certainly aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
   
    Attached at the end of  V M's  Welcome Message are important and informative LINKS that will help you to navigate around the Forums and will allow you to enjoy the features here.     
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

@Kristianvoorhies 
Oh, and another thing Kristian...
As our member @V M  suggested in her Welcome Message to you, please plan to write a post and tell us briefly tell us about yourself in the Introductions Forum so that other members will be aware of your arrival... therefore you will be able to share your thoughts with more members here....
.... and as V M mentioned...
please write a brief introduction and tell other members about yourself in the Introductions Forum where you can exchange comments and thoughts with more like-minded members.
     
Thank you again for joining Susan's Place and being involved in the Forums here.
Best wishes to you,
Danielle
NOTE: Now after all of this Greeting Stuff I will let everyone have this thread back so that the very enjoyable conversation and sharing of thoughts can continue.   
Please know that you are very welcome here.

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. Dysphoria takes many forms so it's best not to compare what you feel with what somebody else feels. On the other hand, usually it pretty clear to somebody who has experienced dysphoria to see it in somebody else. In your case, you seem to be somewhat uncomfortable in the male role and you're happy in the female role. In my book, that's dysphoria.

[pamelatransuk]

Hello Kristian and welcome to this wonderful website.

If you are ashamed of being a man and have a strong desire to transition, then it appears to me you may indeed be transgender.

I suggest you consider seeing a gender therapist to help to explore your feelings.

I wish you success whatever action you may choose to take.

Hugs

Pamela

[Bea1968]

Welcome, your feelings are legitimate.  You will find here that we come in all shapes and colors.  No single definition defines us all well.  I am glad you are getting counciling and I am glad you joined this forum.

Best regards,

Bea