Poll: sexual orientation

[Bea1968]

Hello V,

If you are referring to the reference to Aubreys Place I will have to say I have no feeling whatsoever.  The significance of the reference eludes me.  I thought it to be some sort of "inside" reference that I might come to learn later.  What is the significance of the reference?

[Bea1968]

Thank you Devlyn for setting me straight on that subject.

Bea

[Ⓥ]

Hello V,

If you are referring to the reference to Aubreys Place I will have to say I have no feeling whatsoever.  The significance of the reference eludes me.  I thought it to be some sort of "inside" reference that I might come to learn later.  What is the significance of the reference?

Thank you

Oh, and Aubrey Plaza is a lady.



No real inside reference other than it's just me being ridic suggesting being attracted to her is its own sexuality (She's beautiful obv, but she's super awkward and funny too).

[Bea1968]

You two look somewhat similar.  Sorry for being obtuse as to who she is.  I could see that as a humorous and somewhat quirky answer that I might have made if someone else had made the poll.  Although my answer might have been Natalie Wood. 

[AnneK]

can't imagine what it would have been like to be aware of sexuality at age 12 or 13.

What do you call it when, for example, young teen males start noticing pretty girls?  That certainly happens by 12 or 13.

[AnneK]

I have always been attracted to women, but have been with men.  Hopefully, should I fully transition, I'd still be attracted to woman, so I'm currently straight/bi and would be lesbian/bi.

Incidentally, it's because of my cross-dressing that I first had experience with other men.  A friend was helping me with cross-dressing and she asked if I had ever considered a sex change (as it was called back then).  I replied I had many, many times, but I would have to be a lesbian, as I didn't have an interest in men.  She suggested I give it a try with another guy and I did.  I then realized I enjoyed it and wished I had started sooner, but I'm still mainly interested in women.  I'd love to have a threesome with a couple, but that never happened.

[Bea1968]

I was in the 3rd grade and her name was April Thompson .  I must have been 8 or so. Geese, that was over 4 decades ago....

If anything, I think kids become aware sooner these days because the media and even the clothes pretty much put right in front of their face. 

Best regards,

Bea

[Linde]

Bea1968, I'm not just trolling here... can you answer my question above please?  Honestly, just a simple yes or no will suffice.  Thank you in advance
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Also, if you want to relate to what it's like to be asexual, think of how much it turns you on sexually to look at wallpaper.

Now take that same level of sexual urge and just pretend human beings offer that same level of sexual urge as the wallpaper.  That's what it's like to be asexual.

(disclaimer, I'm not asexual myself... I quite enjoy sex actually... but that's how I can try to relate to what it's like)

Or a real life experience.  If I watch a porn movie, no matter which combination of gender of the actors, I don't feel anything but just that my time is wasted watching this.  If I get wild about it, I might be interested in the makeup of the female part, or what she wears if it is attractive looking to me. 
I do not get any sexual stimulation from visual images or by reading erotic stories.  Nothing, I can care less about all that sex stuff!

[KimOct]

This is an interesting topic because I find myself in a state of evolution regarding my sexual orientation.  Previously I had no attraction to men.  Now I definitely have some attraction to men.  I am more attracted to women but I also find trans-women attractive.  There are two I know IRL that I would definitely like to get to know better.

Part of my evolution / confusion is my body dysphoria.  Having only had an orchie and having small breasts is having a definite impact on my sexuality.  If I had the 'right' body I think I would be even more attracted to men.  I have trouble envisioning sex with a man with the current status of my body.

For those that read my posts in other places and think I have this transgender journey all figured out - believe me - far from it.  I think I have coming out and living authentically down pretty well but there are parts of this journey that still have me scratching my head, particularly this whole sex thing.  I do want to start trying to date again soon.  Getting pretty lonely.

[Linde]

Part of my evolution / confusion is my body dysphoria.  Having only had an orchie and having small breasts is having a definite impact on my sexuality.  If I had the 'right' body I think I would be even more attracted to men.  I have trouble envisioning sex with a man with the current status of my body.

Don't say "only" for the orchi.  This is the main part to have to get into female hormone levels!  Everything else is decorative!
Talking about small breasts, how are the pumps doing, is it a good idea to invest time and money on them?

With the sexual orientation I am still mostly asexual with a leaning to lesbians.  Male bodies don't mean anything to me, and I do not want to have more body contact with them than a handshake!

[pamelatransuk]

Bea/Mariah

Thank you for your action on this poll.

I have now removed my previous vote and made what I consider my more accurate vote which is "asexual" (although I do have minor lesbian tendencies).

Others visiting this thread/poll may remove and vote again if they wish.

This is a most interesting poll and discussion and opens up the possibility of other polls in the future.

Thank you for your time and help.

Hugs

Pamela

[pamelatransuk]

a·sex·u·al
adjective
1.
without sexual feelings or associations.
"asexual individuals may still experience attraction but this attraction doesn't need to be realized in any sexual manner"

Hello Devlyn

Absolutely! I agree this describes me and most asexuals perfectly.

Just to emphasize 2 points:

1. No participation and no urge but most certainly I am interested in romantic/physical attraction and that is to women.

2. We see nothing wrong with sexual urge and participation but for us it means virtually nothing.

Hugs

Pamela

[KimOct]

Don't say "only" for the orchi.  This is the main part to have to get into female hormone levels!  Everything else is decorative!
Talking about small breasts, how are the pumps doing, is it a good idea to invest time and money on them?

With the sexual orientation I am still mostly asexual with a leaning to lesbians.  Male bodies don't mean anything to me, and I do not want to have more body contact with them than a handshake!

Hi Linde,  Yeah I think the breast pump is worth it.  Change is small but enough to notice.  I need to put more time in with it.  It was only $90 so the real investment is putting in the time.

[Chloe]

Nothing, I can care less about all that sex stuff!

*ding ding ding* "To ER STAT am checking pulse and me'thinks this one is already dead?

lol When you say "lesbian-leaning" is that the same as being attracted to "a women"?
Tell me what a lesbian can do that we pre-op cannot . . . and then some (purely optional of course)?

        Are you girls talking 'bout a milk breast pump? My daughter is still breastfeeding and crazy 'ex' tried to get me to see if baby would latch to mine the other night . . . At one point said I did but not really, daughter would KILL ME but pumps help in the development dept?

[Linde]

Hi Linde,  Yeah I think the breast pump is worth it.  Change is small but enough to notice.  I need to put more time in with it.  It was only $90 so the real investment is putting in the time.

Kim, I am glad that it works for you.  I know your boobs are part of you dysphoria, and if $90 can help to correct this, I think the money is well invested.
I paid almost as much for the progesterone cream, which seems not to work at all!  My boobs are almost large enough for my taste, but I want them to get a little more volume/roundness for a nice cleavage, and I was hoping that cream would help with, it did not!

[Linde]

*ding ding ding* "To ER STAT am checking pulse and me'thinks this one is already dead?

lol When you say "lesbian-leaning" is that the same as being attracted to "a women"?
Tell me what a lesbian can do that we pre-op cannot . . . and then some (purely optional of course)?

I think somewhere here on this forum I said that i think I could also like, beside women, trans of both kind FtM or MtF, because I think both understand what trans is and what can cause dysphoria, and both have enough femininity  for my taste to be acceptable for me.  I think that, I had no chance to try it, because I do not know any trans pople close enough.

        Are you girls talking 'bout a milk breast pump? My daughter is still breastfeeding and crazy 'ex' tried to get me to see if baby would latch to mine the other night . . . At one point said I did but not really, daughter would KILL ME but pumps help in the development dept?

It is a vacuum type pump, very likely similar to a breast pump, but Kim can provide more details about it.

[KimOct]

*ding ding ding* "To ER STAT am checking pulse and me'thinks this one is already dead?

lol When you say "lesbian-leaning" is that the same as being attracted to "a women"?
Tell me what a lesbian can do that we pre-op cannot . . . and then some (purely optional of course)?

        Are you girls talking 'bout a milk breast pump? My daughter is still breastfeeding and crazy 'ex' tried to get me to see if baby would latch to mine the other night . . . At one point said I did but not really, daughter would KILL ME but pumps help in the development dept?

Similar to a breast milk pump but not exactly.  It is from a company called Noogleberry.  You can look them up easily enough.  It is not specifically marketed to transwomen, rather all women that want larger breasts.  It is basically a suction pump.  It definitely expands the tissue by pumping on them, the theory is that with enough repetition that the tissue will permanently change.  It has pretty big claims that I think are a bit exaggerated but with modest expectations I think it can live up to that from my 6 weeks or so of experience.

[pamelatransuk]

When you say "lesbian-leaning" is that the same as being attracted to "a women"?

Hello again Chloe

I used similar description to Linde - asexual with minor lesbian tendencies.

I see my asexuality as no urge and no participation but still a romantic attraction to  women on rare occasions.

My minor lesbian tendencies refer to the extremely rare occasion when I would like a physical relationship with a woman providing of course that there was a prior romantic attraction and also that it was reciprocated.

Hugs

Pamela 

[Chloe]

Similar to a breast milk pump but not exactly

I was talking to another transgirl on a different forum who actually did the months-long hormone therapy to produce breast milk and she said, while successful, when all was said & done her breasts weren't really any larger at all. High doses of Progesterone was a part of that routine thus am skeptical of that too. I also tried the 2000mg cream - lol now use it as a moisturizer instead!

Sorry was just chiding 'bout the lesbian thing, was still upset. I was recently running for the Lover Position of a particular Younger Cis Girl but, not getting any nominations or endorsements at all, would have to settle for being "asexual" as well?

Obviously, "no interest or desire" can be something that comes and goes! As a pre-op trans/gender fluid girl who still always presents "as boy" I really don't see point to subscribing solely to a "lesbian community" that I otherwise do not even know. Regardless of equipment down there one either likes you for who you are or they don't!

[Bea1968]

I can agree that sexuality and attraction is complex.  I don't think a single classification defines or limits a person.