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[AlexUABC]

I do not know but I've noticed that today parents, although not all are more open-minded than ours were as young as Kat Boone, Martha Berthola, Kim Petras and others manage to transfer before the age of 18, only sanctimonious people still He tries to "cure" his daughters when they go out transsexuals but I think that the ideal sex change should occur between 18 and 25 years old. and many young girls are getting it

[Sinclair]

18-25 is post puberty which means transition is more of a challenge. Younger than that raises issues with maturity to make such dramatic changes in your life before one has explored their physical birth gender. Ideally, if one is certain what their gender identity is they should progress with transformation before puberty. It's a tough issue. Most of us here have decided later in life to become who we know we are, and because that's post puberty it does present more challenges. I'm not sure what your point is in this post, but I would say the topic of appropriate age for transition is still under study. But, I wish I had started much younger. Best wishes! 

[soyunachica]

There seem to be reputable studies that show that a lot of gender non-conforming or transgender children before puberty do not actually grow into transgender adults - although they often end up as LGB.

In adulthood it seems to solidify more. But then, puberty makes it harder. 18 is plenty of time for a trans girl to end up 6'4" with broad shoulders and receding hairline. And people assigned female at birth hit puberty even earlier usually.

There is a big research hole here in my opinion, and somewhere out there a university is doing a study of a group of transgender children from elementary school age onwards to see what happens. I know it started to hit me when I was 12, and around 21/22 I was reasonably certain it wasn't going to go anywhere and decided to come out.

[AlexUABC]

How many did not pray to God to make us girls or see Ranma1 / 2?

[pamelatransuk]

Yes Alex to both your points.

These days parents are more understanding but that does not apply to all.

So many of us as children prayed to God to make us girls - certainly I did throughout my childhood in the 1960s.

Hugs

Pamela

[F_P_M]

afab, I hit puberty at 10 and was fully grown at 12.
As a result i'll always look well, about 12.

I do sometimes wish my parents had pushed for puberty blockers to delay it, as I was honestly too young and found it extremely traumatic. This was long before I realised my gender non conformance might be a hint at me not being cis, but it was still a horrible awful time that really damaged my mental health as well as my physical health. Giving me a few years reprieve I think really would have helped, allowing me to hit puberty the same time as my peers (12ish) would have made me feel like less of a freak and internalise a lot less self loathing as well as given me time to process the idea of "becoming a woman" against my will.

Personally, I don't think i'd have wanted to transition back then though. I mean, femininty got me three children so ultimately it wasn't all for nothing. I suffered and endured years of awfulness but it got me rewards.

Still, I do wish my parents had bought me a little more time to process the situation.

Blockers short term wouldn't have done any real harm and honestly, allowing kids the time to figure stuff out strikes me as a GOOD thing.

I do wonder though, had I had the education and vocabulary back then, had the idea of trans been more in the public eye, would I have connected the dots sooner? Probably. I might have transitioned at university during my most desperate "i'd sooner die than keep living like this" point.

But at the same time, i'm not sad the way life has gone. Okay so i'm doing this late, but ultimately, i'm okay with that. I feel better able to make such a major decision at my age. I've had the life experience and done the whole woman thing, I feel better equiped to make the call and take that ownership of my body and life.

But I think it's a very individual thing and ultimately comes down to the person. I know if my kid started to express gender doubts I would be looking at perhaps delaying puberty for them for a short while so we could explore options and they could really think about the situation in depth.

My youngest displays a great deal of fluidity in his gender identity and sexuality anyway so honestly? I won't be the least bit surprised if he ends up LGBT. He wanted to be a girl for a bit, now he wants to be a boy but wants to wear skirts. As time goes by this could change again. You just kinda roll with it, support him and let him be him without judgement. Roll with the whims and shifts, he's finding himself, he's figuring himself out and that's his right.
He has time, puberty is many years away right now.
But because he's displayed a great deal more fluidity in gender expression and identity than his other siblings, I do have that understanding that at some point things might get a lot more complicated for him than just wearing a dress to school. Ultimately though, he is my child and I love him regardless and want to do the best by him. So yeah, i'll do anything I need to do to make sure puberty isn't traumatising and help him to become whoever he wants to be. Right now he's going by "he/him" pronouns, that could change. We just run with it. You sorta got to.

though I admit, he makes me smile when he forgets I don't have a penis. He's certain i SHOULD have one and man, I think this kiddo has clocked me long before I even figured myself out! hahaha.

[krobinson103]

How many did not pray to God to make us girls or see Ranma1 / 2?

Don't know about God, but there as lots of meditation and prayer to the Earth Mother throughout my life. She came through in the end..

As for earlier transition? I started at 42 and I don't regret that. All the time and experiences before that got me to a point I could make it happen, I have two kids and zero regrets. In terms of HRT efficiency its done great things and I have no complaints.