How do guys react to partners who have had orchidectomies?

[PrincessCrystal]

So, I'm getting close to (finally) having my orchidectomy, but I'm starting to get cold feet.  The obvious things go through my head, like the fact that it is permanent, and pretty much locked me into HRT for the rest of my life.  But another thing that is somewhat new is the idea of how a cismale might respond to it.  While my balls are the most masculine part of my body, the penis is staying (not getting a full op yet), and part of me is imagining guys feeling/seeing that penis without testicles and getting spooked...

Does anyone here have a story about having sex with a man after having orchidectomy?

Edit: to clarify, at this point, even the gay guy I was dating before I started my transition (we broke up) knows I am trans.  I am not passible at this point, and may never be.  This is not about springing things on guys, it is about whether the realization that a castration has been done on a body they are touching bothers them.

[Lady Sarah]

Guys will have all sorts of reactions ranging from "who cares? You're beautiful" to "What the blank? You're a dude".

I have a fair amount of experience with this, since I have dated quite a few straight guys before finding my hubby. As long as they know before the first date, you'll likely be safe... and if they choose to date you, they'll be accepting. Getting rid of the testes tells them you are serious about your transformation, and there is little risk of you deciding to change back. Guys like to feel comfortable with a fact like that.

Now, if you spring it on a guy you have dated, just out of the blue, you will have no idea what his reaction would be. Guys hate being deceived, and having a penis may make him outraged.

[PrincessCrystal]

Getting rid of the testes tells them you are serious about your transformation, and there is little risk of you deciding to change back. Guys like to feel comfortable with a fact like that.

I think you misunderstood the question, so I'm going to go back and edit it, but this part is helpful to me.  It did occur to me that testicles are one of the things that the less trans-accepting people cite as a reason that someone "is a man", and so not having them might actually make the guys who are on the fence about me as a girlfriend a bit more comfortable, but it helps to hear it from someone else.

Edit: also, it would be very helpful to hear about your experiences with straight men post-orchidectomy.

[Lady Sarah]

I had my orchiectomy in 1994, and (due to financial reasons) still have a penis. Yes, my husband and I have sex. I don't want to write a story about it, no matter how awesome it is. No, I don't use my penis, and it is small enough that it rarely gets in the way.

[PrincessCrystal]

I had my orchiectomy in 1994, and (due to financial reasons) still have a penis. Yes, my husband and I have sex. I don't want to write a story about it, no matter how awesome it is. No, I don't use my penis, and it is small enough that it rarely gets in the way.

So, to cut back to the original question, what you're saying is, that doesn't really bother guys, in your experience?

[Charlie Nicki]

They don't notice or care.

[Lady Sarah]

So, to cut back to the original question, what you're saying is, that doesn't really bother guys, in your experience?

When they know you have it, despite wanting it gone, the ones I have been with, have been fine with it. My husband doesn't care one bit that I have it. As long as he can make me happy, he is happy.

[GingerVicki]

A non-pansexual person could have a problem with it. I would ask if the potential partner is pansexual just to avoid possible beating etc...

But it is your life do as you will.

[krobinson103]

Can't comment on guys but my awesome bi girlfriend likes having both breasts, and a penis (even if it small and only works sometimes) to play with...

[Robbyv213]

Warning I may use language or specific terms for male anatomy I apologize if I offend anyone by using those terms.

I personally feel that testicles are very unsightly they're big and they just get in the way. Honestly I am seriously considering having my testicles removed hopefully the surgeon will be able to keep enough skin there in case I do want to go further with gender reassignment surgery down the road granted I know there is a limited amount of time between an having your testicles removed and finishing or going further with having a vagina created from the penis and left over tissue.

For me personally my issues are with my genitals downstairs all I've ever wanted to be was a woman my entire life and everything that comes with it but I feel a starting point or a very good compromise is having my testicles removed and allowing my penis to shrink an atrophy so much that it's barely a bump. I feel that looks way more visually aesthetic and beautiful than a giant penis with saggy testicles. Granted I'm exaggerating a little bit but I'm sure you all get my point.

If I were to ever have that done I probably wouldn't be changing in the men's locker room in a way that anyone else can see my generals anyways. I'm typically pretty shy or I guess not confident in a manner to change facing anyone versus facing the locker where my belongings are or changing in the shower stall after I'm done showering.

Granted if you're about to have sexual relations with somebody I would hope that you two are close enough to where you've been able to discuss things beforehand and they know what they're getting into or what to expect just as much so as you know what you're getting into and what to expect to a certain extent.

[RidingTheTigerFEMME]

I've found that straight men like it for the reasons you gave: it makes you "less male" than they are.

I had my orchi done instead of a vasectomy, which would have been easier and a LOT less painful, as a means of birth control back when I still had erections and on occasion enjoyed PIV sex with a woman. I had mine done first and foremost to give myself and others visual assurance that I could no longer make a female pregnant. That it helps with HRT was an added benefit.
I also had the scrotal skin removed entirely, and I think what remains looks better now than it ever did before.

My male scent had already diminished and had became more feminine due to HRT, but after the procedure it was gone entirely, never to return.

The orchi helped remove what remained of my male identity, and even though the pain was excruciating initially and lasted for over a month, once the wound healed all I had was a nice little scar where my scrotum had been. Straight men I've since gotten sexually involved with usually don't at all mind giving that spot a tonging during sex, which always turns me on. They find it unusual but endearing. Also, my penis always looks more cute than threatening compared with the member of any guy I've been with since then. His member always plays a front and central role in the encounter while mine isn't paid much attention as a general rule.

[RidingTheTigerFEMME]

So you know, I had my orchiectomy performed in November of 2022, and I don't regret it at all. It was a big step forward for me in my personal journey, and my friends who know about it have all been very supportive.

[Courtney G]

So you know, I had my orchiectomy performed in November of 2022, and I don't regret it at all. It was a big step forward for me in my personal journey, and my friends who know about it have all been very supportive.

If you don't mind my asking, was function affected by the orchi? I would like to stop taking spiro and I'd like my testicles removed, but I do enjoy having function.

[RidingTheTigerFEMME]

If you don't mind my asking, was function affected by the orchi? I would like to stop taking spiro and I'd like my testicles removed, but I do enjoy having function.

That's a good question. Unfortunately I can't honestly give you a good response because in my case my penis had already started losing much of its ability to achieve and sustain erections well before my orchi as a result of hrt and subsequent atrophy due to disuse. I did have a few erections after I had healed from the surgery, but I've never been a big fan of using my member for penetrative sex so I didn't mind gradually losing that ability. (It certainly made me feel less feminine when I did use it.)

I'm primarily attracted to men, and personally I feel much more feminine knowing I've lost male functions I never enjoyed having, not to mention being able to wear women's underwear without much of anything getting in the way.

That said, many transwomen are primarily (or solely) attracted to women, and many are also capable of having fully functioning penises well after starting hrt that can penetrate partners of either sex. So had I been fully "functional" beforehand I doubt the orchi would have affected that functionality much, given that I was already on hrt with hormone levels in the female range before (and after) surgery.

A previous poster put it .best by saying "you lose what you don't use." It's very true when it comes to male sexual organs.