Trans “Enough”

[zamber74]

I have experienced gender dysphoria for decades now, having severe anxiety problems has ensured I have never transitioned.    I don't know if I am trans, or trans enough, I just look forward to a day when I can go on with my life, away from most people, in a way that alleviates the GD. 

For the majority of my waking hours, I live out being who I want to be in virtual worlds, if it were possible at this moment, I would forever escape in them and never look back.  Three decades, have been spent, living in a fantasy world where I am safe, and female.  Does this make me virtual trans   How many hours of game play, do you need to play a day as the opposite gender, to be considered VTrans? 

I just keep hoping, that technology progresses far enough in my lifetime, where I can spend most of my time, in a more detailed fantasy world. 

[randim]

I would say "transgender" denotes a psychological state relating to gender identity, dysphoria, etc..  How someone handles that state *may* involve a medical or social transition, or it may not, depending on a lot of different circumstances.  Would someone consider a celibate person who desires partners of the same sex anything other than gay because they did not act on those desires?

[Ricki Wright]

A transgender person does not have to transition to be transgender. Transgender is a state of mind, not a series of actions. I feel that if you have found a way to come to terms with yourself and wish to make sacrifices in your life for the sake of others, that is your choice. Just as a caution however, those people you are doing this for may eventually figure out that the whole "normal" facade that is being used as a front is a lie and may be suddenly very angry at you.

You do not have to be a member of MENSA to be a genius. You do, however, need to be a genius to become a member of MENSA. Just because you don't do something does not invalidate your right to do so. Same for you. You do not have to transition to be transgender. It is highly recommended to be transgender to transition however.

Ricki

[pamelatransuk]

By definition, Transgender and Transition are different things. I have always been transgender, but circumstances prevented me from transitioning. It was important for me to identify my condition, so I could learn more about it, and satify a basic need for identification. I knew I wasn't male, and not female either, which put me at odds with the binary world I lived in. Realising I was transgender settled a great deal of uncertainty as I then knew where I fit in, that there were others lke me, and there was a path for me to follow. This allowed me to manage my existence until circumstances changed and I could start to transition.

Allie

This is an accurate and well expressed summary. This describes my history perfectly. Thank you Allie.

Hugs

Pamela  xx

[Allie Jayne]

My pleasure Pamela! There are some advantages to analysing my situation for over 60 years!

Allie

[Ⓥ]

To the OP Nancy who said I'm either a strange person or I possibly had some hangups about my own identity, here's my own take on my "identity" and how it relates to this thread topic:

I was a biological man suffering with Gender Dysphoria for most of their life.

I am currently a biological man who, due to transitioning, no longer suffers with Gender Dysphoria (I was "cured" essentially) whom society sees as a transgender woman now.

^ I'm comfy with this because I harbor 0 internalized transphobia, and I realize that my own view is far from common in how other transgender people would characterize themselves... hence, I'm a pretty strange person LoL.

It's funny because some transgender and cisgender people alike would call me not legitimately transgender because I still have my original plumbing.  But even with that dismissal tossed at my feet every now and then, do I feel that I am "Trans Enough?" My answer is: I don't care.

To each their own how they dictate reality I guess

[Devlyn]

To the OP Nancy who said I'm either a strange person or I possibly had some hangups about my own identity, here's my own take on my "identity" and how it relates to this thread topic:

I was a biological man suffering with Gender Dysphoria for most of their life.

I am currently a biological man who, due to transitioning, no longer suffers with Gender Dysphoria (I was "cured" essentially) whom society sees as a transgender woman now.

^ I'm comfy with this because I harbor 0 internalized transphobia, and I realize that my own view is far from common in how other transgender people would characterize themselves... hence, I'm a pretty strange person LoL.

It's funny because some transgender and cisgender people alike would call me not legitimately transgender because I still have my original plumbing.  But even with that dismissal tossed at my feet every now and then, do I feel that I am "Trans Enough?" My answer is: I don't care.

To each their own how they dictate reality I guess

I like that outlook. I sought (and found) femininity, not womanhood.

[Ryuichi13]

How I always explained it to people that ask "am I trans enough?" I answer with "If you have any doubts about your gender, then you are transgender.  Period."

I never even heard the phrase "am I trans enough?" until I was on tumblr (in the good ol' days when it was still NSFW), and someone asked that question.  I was shocked, having never heard it before then. 

My partner is non-transitioning due to extenuating circumstances, yet he is as transgender as I am.  (I'm a FTM and currently transitioning.)  I treat him like my boyfriend, refer to him as he/him/his under most circumstances, and to me, he's just a long-haired man.  YUM, I LOVE men with long hair!    When his time and energy allows it, he comes with me to transgender-related events, he attends the local transmasculine support group and trans adult support group, he mostly acts male when he's not at work or around family, he's my guy. <3

If you have any questions about your gender.  You are transgender.  Period.   I stand by that statement. 

Ⓥ brought up some very interesting thoughts on the subject, ones I've never thought of before.  This is a very interesting discussion.

Ryuichi