A day in the life of Jessica_k

[Jessica_K]

I have had a lovely weekend with my boyfriend. There is a massive bonus too. He is a really good cook. I'm learning a lot.

So it's Persian food, fantastic, he is from Iran. Do not ask what it is all called lol.

Some details about the house. It's a 3 story town house on a new estate just outside the town of Corby.

Each floor has 2 identical sized rooms 6 in total. And with the exception of kitchen and main bedroom can be used for any thing.

I have the living area on the bottom floor + kitchen. The second floor has the main bedroom with en-suite and the HIFI music room. Yes a whole room dedicated to the dansette. Floor above is a study/second guest room, bath room and the main guest room.

All of this is for me!!!

Shame I have work tomorrow battling the A1.

Oh Davina, I'm only an hour away so yes will catch up.

Forgot to mention, my teddy bear she is called Annabelle and comes everywhere with me.

Hugs
Jessica

[davina61]

Tagine, lots of sweet spices. Some of my Indian curry recipes have heavy influence from that part of the world.

[Jessica_K]

Another weekend with my new boyfriend.

So, here is a theory, work with me. A cis girl would or could start puberty at 11 add 6 years and now she is 17. At that age hormones are raging. I am on 6 years and I feel like 17.

Never felt this way before and I love it.

Our relationship is progressing well. Getting to know each other. Eating lots of lovely food cooked for me.if we are not together it's chat and phone.

I took a little risk Sunday and put on the first F1 GP on TV. He had never seen it before but he loved it.

Next weekend is going to be probmatic. I had arranged a month or so ago that a work friend Phil, is to come and visit me. This was before things heating up. I have to tell my BF that it's happening and I have to do it tomorrow. I hope he will come and we can host Phil together. Fingers crossed.

Night all
Jessica xxx

[Jessica_K]

Hi folks

It's been a turbulent 2 weeks. We are officially no longer women in the UK.
This is a nation wide bathroom ban and more. There are only 2 sexes and trans women are men. Trans men are women.

I have not been able to get to the many protests which is a shame but they are too far.

I do not know yet how my company is going to react to this announcement and the UK human rights declaring that all single sex spaces must be for biological sex people only could mean I am forced to use male toilets when at work which will obviously out me to everyone.

I have been off work for these 2 weeks with a brief return for a couple of days but working from home. I am dreading going into work Monday. I have been crying a lot. For the first time ever my mental health is shot to pieces and I am usually very mentally strong.

Here in the UK we have no where to go. No friendly state or state laws the Supreme Court judgement is of course illegal as it breaks European rights law which the UK is a signature. But it seems governments these days ignore such things. They do not call this country TERF island for nothing. Ok enough.

My time off work has been super though. Rez has stayed and soon be moving in permanently he has his own room so he can paint (he is an artist) and Friday organised for some of his originals to be scanned for printing and made available for sale. I have created a website which will go live soon. I will link it here when it is. Unless it's against the rules.

Time to get up
Jessica xxx

[davina61]

But if they try to enforce it they will get sued as its against the existing legislation. I will continue using the ladies .

[Lori Dee]

I have created a website which will go live soon. I will link it here when it is. Unless it's against the rules.

Linking to your website within your own blog is perfectly acceptable. You can also put the URL in your profile, like I have in mine.
<---- see the Globe icon.

[Dances With Trees]

I have been crying a lot. For the first time ever my mental health is shot to pieces and I am usually very mentally strong.

TanyaG says the people doing this to us (on both sides of the pond) dwell in the shallow end of the pool and their voices will soon be drowned out by a sane and compassionate majority. I pray she is right but, even if she is, that hope does little to make today's pain more bearable. I am grateful for all the safe spaces, especially this one, Jessica K, and I hope sharing your angst makes it a bit less painful. I pray your today is better than yesterday.   

[Jessica_K]

It's been a long time since my last confession.
Things are happening fast here.

I moved just under 6 months ago and bad news I have been effectively kicked out of my house. The owner has sold it and I have to move out.

The good news is I found another identical house a few mins away on the same estate. Had the keys since Wednesday and been moving about 20 car loads in ever since. Amazing what you can put in an X1. The large items are to be moved next weekend.

For the next bit of the story I have to go back to the beginning of the month and Fizzy Friday. The estate I live on has an amphitheatre run by the estate community that every house owner pays in each year. And the first Friday of each summer month a band is hired to play. This time it was a queen tribute band.

Anyway I went and was alone and soon met with a couple of women and had a great time dancing and chatting. Fast forward to Wednesday evening and moving in a car load. The door opened opposite and OMG it was Diane one of the ladies!!

As for politics.

No idea what's going to happen. Still waiting for the axe to fall with the toilet ban but does not look good. Nothing from my work yet. I been in the main Luton office last week, just carried on as usual. Trans groups have written to the European rights body to ask for them to report on trans rights in the UK. It's a precursor to bring a case to the court that has been filed but could take years. Years we do not have.

Pride month. Local council has banned pride flags from public buildings now an ultra right wing council has been elected. Many prides are next month with London and Newcastle both of which I will be going.

Rez, he is moving in with me at the new house and giving up his flat in Coventry yay.

Bye for now and will try to pop in more often

Jessica

[Jessica_Rose]

I'm glad to hear that despite a few setbacks, everything seems to be going well for you.

Politics have become rabid in many places over the last few years, I think the changes came more quickly than most of us expected. Hopefully things will get better in a few years, but until then we must all be careful.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

[Jessica_K]

This weekend is moving weekend. It has been very stressful things getting damaged, things going into boxes and not marked. Rez going at breakneck speed and I cannot keep up. I was very close to a breakdown yesterday. My old house neighbour drove up and asked if I was alright as she saw me struggling helping to get a large chair in the van and I just burst into tears.
I never thought this would affect me so much. You hear of it with old people, but I am not old but maybe at 72 I am.

I did meet some new neighbours though earlier in the day and they are so nice. Invited us round to a party but could not go with all the moving.

It was London Pride yesterday and missed it I would have loved to go. But been invited to Newcastle for Pride up there later in the month.

Last day of moving today. Then the cleaning of the old house and attempting to empty the boxes and get back to some normality. I hope I survive.

Xxx

[davina61]

You will soon settle in, saying that I think there is still a box of ornaments in the attic of the ex's house that went up there in 96------------

[Jessica_K]

Move completed loads of stuff in storage until we get the garage in a couple of months. Then all to move back again, another van hire.

Boxes everywhere but 2 beds made a just functional kitchen, and somewhere to sit in the living room

Powered up the 5g modem and router and everything just works. No setting up as per a new router. Strong signal and HD TV working great.

I need a rest now as I'm in the office for work tomorrow and soooo tired even though Rez has done all the hard work

Xxx

[Jessica_K]

It's been awhile since I have posted but feel like I should share a good news story in the current gloom.

Last week I spent 3 days with my 8 yo grandson. Usually he and his mum (my daughter) come to me for the summer break. But now I live full time female that is not possible.

Why?

Cos his father is GC and homophobe. He believes I will corrupt his son and turn him trans. He is not to know that there are such people as trans and gay.

So I had to go to their place. I had kept a few pieces of male clothes for this very occasion. I then dropped Rez off at his flat in Coventry and changed there. I woman went in, a woman wearing jeans, a polo shirt and no wig came out. Boobs and bum quite a giveaway lol

So day one it was an animal based theme park. We both had an amazing time. When it came to loos. I sent him in the men's and I went into the ladies. No one battered an eyelid. I looked in the mirror and it was obvious why. I just looked like an old woman with bad dress sense lol. The rest of the day I was chatting with other ladies as he played etc just like normal.

Day 2 was similar another place of fun and more chatting with other women. Even had someone I was chatting with turn to a friend that had turned up and said "I was OK I was chatting with that lady there".

Third day was cricket again I used the ladies and was called madam.

So I was a bit apprehensive that I had to "boy mode" with the current climate in the UK as I am totally a passing stealth but it seems I'm still passing whatever I wear.

And to finish the week my grandson won his tennis competition 4 games to 0 in the final. So a bril week for us both

Jessica xxx

[Lori Dee]

I just love it when that happens. There have been times when I have been "ma'amed" when I was just running errands, so no makeup or jewelry. It is a great feeling to be seen for who you are.

Congrats on a wonderful visit.

Perhaps the GC homophobe should wear protective gear around you so he doesn't catch it. 

[davina61]

Just been at a hot rod show all weekend, Hot Rod T shirt, shorts (okay ladies denim) and just my wig and bb cream and got called lady all the time.