Oh also, I wonder if anyone can speak to this? I have a theory but it's just that — a theory:
Speaking to my wife last night, I told her that I don't feel all that nervous about the lunch with my sisters. Oh I'm sure I probably will be that morning, but I was oddly calm when telling our son... so maybe not.
HOWEVER, when I think about what's coming up the next month or so, what DOES make me nervous? Is the first time we go to our favorite restaurant once I'm more openly presenting (basically - post "hair").
Is it simply because with my sisters I'm controlling the audience AND I'm giving them the information before hand? In crisis media we call that "sticking the knife in yourself" (at least you can make sure it won't hit a vital organ... you know?)
But with the restaurant - the staff knows us well. Some of them come and chat with us regardless of whether or not they are serving our table, that sort of thing... so that is completely out of my control.
Or is it JUST the idea of presenting in public? Because while I know that will be fraught, I feel like it'll be what it will be and I know the second time will be better than the first, etc... so I really don't think this is the issue. But I guess I don't know?
All I do know is somehow I'm hung up on the first-time out at this restaurant in particular.
For those who have come before... does this ring any bells? Would appreciate any insight.
Love,
Allie