Allie's Blog IV: Revenge of Allie's Blog

[LoriDee]

A great support team will not only hold you up when you need it most, but they will also be the first to defend you against those who may not be supportive. You have the Dream Team.

[Iztaccihuatl]

For us married MTF trans folks so much hinges on how the wife takes it. Children take their cues from their mother and her family will too. And many other folks find it easier to go along when they see that the wife is fully supportive and okay with the transition.

In this respect you really lucked out, Allie!

Hugs,

Heidemarie

[imallie]

For us married MTF trans folks so much hinges on how the wife takes it. Children take their cues from their mother and her family will too. And many other folks find it easier to go along when they see that the wife is fully supportive and okay with the transition.

In this respect you really lucked out, Allie!

Hugs,

Heidemarie

Oh believe me, Heidemarie (inadvertent rhyme - my apologies!) I'm well aware, and try to appreciate that fact every day. But then nothing has changed on that front in years. I felt that way about my wife long before transition. 😘

By the way, we just spent the day with her family -

We walked the beach with two of her sisters and one brother-in-law...

Then ate lunch with one of those sisters and the other brother-in-law...

Then had dinner later with both couples, a third sister/brother-in-law and a brother (whose wife was out of town).

In all those interactions I think only once did my transition even come up as a topic, and then only tangentially ... someone asked about my headaches and I told them how hormones were impacting it, and we did share the stories of telling our son and scheduling things with my sisters. But that's it.

Other than that, and some very nice (and appropriate) use of my new name? It was all just same old,same old. Which was very very nice, and much appreciated.

[Iztaccihuatl]

That sounds really nice and hearing your correct name must have been so affirming! I think your family is a poster book on how every coming out and transition should be, namely just a non-event. Kinda: thanks for letting me know another part of you, but now let's move on to some other subject.

[imallie]

That sounds really nice and hearing your correct name must have been so affirming! I think your family is a poster book on how every coming out and transition should be, namely just a non-event. Kinda: thanks for letting me know another part of you, but now let's move on to some other subject.

Yup. My side was different.

My sisters really wanted to know more, and our lunch was all about me and it was really lovely and showed how much they care and all that... but it was — a lot. And subsequently one of them has been a bit too exuberant about things, but I've spoken to her and I think she gets it.
But my other two sisters have calibrated things really well.

So yes, everything with family has really gone amazingly well.

Next week is "friends" week, and we (my wife and I, and probably our son too since we will see him for dinner tomorrow) will come up for a game plan for that.

[Oldandcreaky]

I don't know if you're exhausted by all the revealing, but I'm exhausted for you!

Allie, have you heard anything positive or negative from the people you feared might be problematic?

[imallie]

I don't know if you're exhausted by all the revealing, but I'm exhausted for you!

Allie, have you heard anything positive or negative from the people you feared might be problematic?

Bupkis.

Actually, my sisters whose two boys are on the watch list, intimated that, although they have not contacted me "it's not their way" they are supportive. Who knows?
The other nephew - from whose brothers and sister I've gotten really nice notes is radio silent. And he and I normally do text on occasion.
And nothing from the other two brothers in law... but again, nothing negative just nothing positive.
I personally am treating all things like that as positive under proven otherwise. 

[EllenW]

Allie,

I am very happy that everything is going well. Based on my experience radio silence means acceptance.

some very nice (and appropriate) use of my new name

My memory from your lost blog that Allie was not going to be your new name and that you did not want to mention it until you told your family. So, since you told them. What is your new name?

Ellen