Allie's Blog IV: Revenge of Allie's Blog

[Oldandcreaky]

Wow, she is generous. Is she still working on your face? 

[imallie]

Wow, she is generous. Is she still working on your face? 

Oh yeah, very much so. 🦁🙄😂

What she's done though is so so smart. She started with my cheeks (which she said were as dense as any she's ever worked on in her 30+ years of doing this. So... you know... score one for me.). And then moved down and is slowly doing my neck as she closes in on my goatee area (even though she continually thins it every session).

The idea is so that on the days that I don't shave in anticipation of a session, it looks "normal". Like right now (since I haven't shaved today and normally wait until Friday to give my face a day), it looks like I'm trying to grow a goatee. That's it.

But as she next finishes under my neck and comes up the chin, eventually it'll look like I'm just trying to grow a mustache and then... poof. She says all this stuff is going much more quickly, so hopefully we'll be somewhere by year's end?  That would be a little over two years.

Oh and in the beginning she would also sometimes bring me over and do a round of laser on me too (never charged me)... first to clear my whole face, but then subsequently only around the lip area, which is where I had mostly my dark hairs. But those seem gone now so we haven't done that in quite a while.

[imallie]

By the way? My wife and I were planning our weekend this evening, and then started talking a bit about plans for next week (meal planning, ballgames, etc etc) and she said "and we need to leave next Saturday open."  I looked at her quizzically and she rolled her eyes and laughed at me.

Next Saturday is "hair" day! Not that I forgot, but I FORGOT, you know? I mean, I knew it was the 18th, but I guess I didn't realize the 18th was so soon. I do, by the way, understand how days are sequential and all that. I just... you know... have my moments.

Regardless, I am a bit amazed how fast that went. When I had to book six weeks out I thought it would be an eternity, and now it's literally here in a week. That is really cool.

Love,
Allie

P.S. So... since today is the 9th, tomorrow would be....? No Spoilers, I'll get it... I'll get it... 🤔🤔🤔🙄😂

[Oldandcreaky]

Allie, when I had my facial hair removed, that's when I straddled the gender line. I wore ties everyday to nudge people to see me as male, but even then, some strangers would read me as female. Those who'd known me continued to see me as the same person, i.e. male. People simply don't note change. I do and you likely do too, with your journalism background. We had to pay attention to write the right story.

[imallie]

Allie, when I had my facial hair removed, that's when I straddled the gender line. I wore ties everyday to nudge people to see me as male, but even then, some strangers would read me as female. Those who'd known me continued to see me as the same person, i.e. male. People simply don't note change. I do and you likely do too, with your journalism background. We had to pay attention to write the right story.

Yes, on all counts.

On the one hand I feel like if I went full-time with the hair immediately, I could still do other things to read male if need be, because people simply don't look that hard.

But I think because I'm used to picking up on little things, the idea of wearing the hair on those days when I had intentional facial hair growth for electrolysis seems too much for me to handle... at least out of the gate.

[Oldandcreaky]

the idea of wearing the hair on those days when I had intentional facial hair growth for electrolysis seems too much for me to handle

I agree. It might invite second looks.

[imallie]

I agree. It might invite second looks.

The only thing is? Growth comes the willingness to make yourself uncomfortable. And so while I do think we are going to go with the removable hair topper rather than the attached version to start... so that we still have the options, we know it will be important to, as often as possible, CHOSE uncomfortable.

So yeah, second looks are going to be part of that. But we'll be actively deciding to walk into them on a day-to-day basis, as opposed to having no choice about it. So it's a weird version of retaining some control, I suppose.

 

[LoriDee]

I'll be anxious to know what you decide on.

Just wait until you find THE ONE and see the real Allie in the mirror. It is an awesome experience.

[Oldandcreaky]

Yesterday, in a nearby town, I saw a transwoman exiting a grocery store. She wore a long, flowered skirt and a patterned  shirt and vest. Color and pattern atop color and pattern atop color and pattern, a rudimentary fashion mistake, which invite a second look all by itself...and that second look took me to a face not sufficiently softened by estrogen, which is why I clocked her. I expect you wouldn't make that mistake, but do use your wife as a fashion consultant, which is something nearly all women do.

[Maid Marion]

Before COVID, women would ask me for advice in the grocery store!
That never happened when I was presenting as a guy!

[Gina P]

I always ask my wife if I look ok before heading out. Sometimes she will offer advise. She has had a lifetime learning these things, would be silly not to take advantage of that. 

[ChrissyRyan]

Yesterday, in a nearby town, I saw a transwoman exiting a grocery store. She wore a long, flowered skirt and a patterned  shirt and vest. Color and pattern atop color and pattern atop color and pattern, a rudimentary fashion mistake, which invite a second look all by itself...and that second look took me to a face not sufficiently softened by estrogen, which is why I clocked her. I expect you wouldn't make that mistake, but do use your wife as a fashion consultant, which is something nearly all women do.

That seems like an odd way to wear clothes.  Each may have looked fine but together, not so. 

It is good to ask for advice.

I learned mostly by looking at the photography models wearing outfits, as shown in catalogs and at Web sites.  The pictures may have shown a blouse or skirt or pants that was on sale but you saw the entire outfit.

I figured that no retailer would post photographs of bad matching outfits, that would be a waste of money and would not increase sales.  So, I tried to match like style and colors, not exactly the same pictured outfit except sometimes I did do that.

Chrissy

[Maid Marion]

Matching tops and bottoms of the same fabric is fine.
In fact, that is the standard for fine men's suits.  The fabric of the tops and bottoms match.
I'm so small I never could do that as a guy.  Always had a mismatch. 

But, a mismatch usually doesn't work.
There are exceptions to every rule but the mind doesn't like to see small differences.

Which is why wall paper comes with lot codes so you can make sure every roll comes from the same press run.  A small color shift is bad.

Sometimes I see on Revolve that certain items are not available as a set, though you can buy matching tops and bottoms of the same fabric.
They don't want the hassle of customers arguing about exact color matching.