I cannot agree with you more on all points. Being a product of the bible belt and part of the "New Mission" I have seen and people have tried to teach me that thought. I have left more churches than I can count on them following that "true christian" path.
Sadly enough the situation does not get better, Brotherly/Sisterly love fades more and more. Comes down to the people on an individual basis. Where does bigotry nto exist? In the individual. However sparce those individuals are.