Hi Krivix
I hope you are well. Please be assured I have been thinking about your situation even here in Australia (down under). You are not alone and there are others here on Susan's who care for you in their own way, not physically, but in mind and spirit.
In regards to your therapy situation. I did some research and I came across the following.
Do minors need parental consent for therapy in California? The article and similar ones, basically say you do not need permission from your parents to seek therapy and they do not have to be told about your personal problem. These articles are based upon Californian law.
Quote from: krivix on February 09, 2024, 12:56:44 PMIm honestly terrified of telling anyone close to me about coming out but the longer it is the worse I feel mentally. Any advice/coping methods youd suggest?
You have told us, that you are terrified of telling people around you and I can relate to this on a personal level. Suffice to say that I never ever tell anyone about my 'medical condition' or in other words that I'm a 'transsexual' ever. Even then I think twice about telling medical professionals, like you I'm terrified or scared of doing so. Recently I needed a specialist and when I told them about my 'condition ' with my post operation surgery letter no less. All my fears were a complete waste of time.
Which brings us to you possibly telling that teacher about yourself. I would say go ahead, but keep in mind the following three points.
- Make sure when you tell the teacher that nobody else is around that could over hear this private conversation. The study hall does not sound very practical for this type of conversation.
- Tell the teacher that what you are about to tell them must remain private and confidential and not tell anyone else about you. This is paramount in you feeling safe and secure in your personal life
- Only tell them if you feel comfortable in doung so.
Telling the teacher allows you to reveal yourself and your need to come out to someone.
Patience is the key to coping and the following may help you in coping:
- Learn as much as you can about your personal problem which means a lot of reading.
- Do activities that are female in nature that you can do, without anybody else knowing what you are doing.
- Think about what you want to do in the future and let us know, by telling us here at Susan's.
- Tell us if you want, about the other issues you have in your life, if and only if you want to.
- Most important thing of all, spend quality time with family and friends.
Remember patience is the key and what you want will come to fruition, if you work on it step by step. What you are learning now, has taken others and me included, years to learn about.
Take care and look after yourself. I and others look forward to hearing from you again.
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
