This isn't exactly an answer to ChrissyRyan's question, but her question brought this experience to mind.
In 2001, three years after I transitioned, I was working a new job; I was an accountant for a group of medical clinics. I shared an office with 2 other women, and our large office was a hangout spot for nurses and their assistants who would socialize and shirk their work. On this day there were several women in my office as I paid little attention to them; I had a big project I was working on and I was trying to tune out the conversation happening around me.
I became aware that the conversation had turned to trans people. A trans woman had come into the clinic that day which triggered the conversation. A couple of the people in my office were talking trash about trans folks, and others in the group seemed to have no strong opinions.
I wasn't sure whether to get involved or not, but as the conversation went on, it started to bother me. Finally I looked up and said, "I'm thinking about calling my mom to tell her I'm going to become a man."
Everyone in the room looked at me. There was silence for about 5 seconds, then everyone in the room broke out into hysterical laughter. The general consensus was that I was the least masculine person in the whole building and I would be the least likely man in history.
It wasn't exactly a win, as I didn't change any minds or come out in defense of myself and trans people everywhere. But it did end an annoying conversation, and everyone left my office smiling and laughing to themselves.
I did transition on the job in senior management in 1998. I have never come out to any employer since 1998. And I probably never will.
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Miharu